i have been seeing a man for a couple of months. he is recently divorced (separated from his wife last year, just finished up the legal work) and was not looking for a relationship. i had just gotten out of a long-term relationship and was similarly only looking for something casual, friendship or casual dating. surprisingly, we have found we connect better with each other than we have with anyone else in a long time, if ever. he says that he is falling in love with me, but isn't ready for a commitment and is confused about what he should do. i feel like i am falling also, and being the hopeless romantic that i am don't want to lose him, but i am scared that because of the timing this will only end in pain. i know you have to have faith and take a risk, but i don't want to take a risk where it will almost certainly lead to my heart broken again. any advice?
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--- Wednesday, July 13, 2005 -
Answer by: Emma
Jada, how will you know if you don't try?
I can totally understand the fragile state of this relationship and the less-than-perfect timing in which it has come about but honestly, this should bring you together, not drive you apart...
It's easy to get carried away, especially after so much heartache but why don't you both try to agree to something which isn't too heavy... the signs so far look good so try not to be so disheartened when it's only early days...
Take it easy & don't expect too much. You both deserve happiness and with a mutual understanding and respect of each other’s feelings you can get there, it may take a while, but we all move on sooner or later.
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