Yesterday was my birthday party i just turned 16 and all my family and my boyfriend and some friends were here well after the party my b.f. stayed a while and one of my cousins was gonna stay all night. well i have a lovesac (a big bean bag basically) and me and my b.f. was sittin on it we dident want my cousin to feel weird so we told her to come sit on it wish us who is 13 and my b.f. is 17 wel he asked us if we would have a threesome well at that time i knew he was jokin and stuff but we both said no anyways. well he was gonna joke around with my cousin and scare her just a lil so he wisheperd in my ear if he could act like he was gonna kiss her at the time i thought it was funny so i said yea well he did and then he just kept goin on and on about it and how he really wanted to kiss her it started to piss me off alot and i told him well hes all like im sorry and all this other stuff. so i just layed on my lovesac and he laid behind me spooning lol and then my cousin laid behond him but not spooning well he had his arms around me and i looked up and his feet was like wrapped around hers or somethin and as soon as i looked up he moved and i no my cousin very well and she thins he is ugly and fat and stuff she dont like him and she thought that i had my feet on her and he just kept like touchin her and stuff not in bad places just touchin well he went home later that night and he called my house and my cuz answered she told him i was in the kitchen but i wasent i was listin to there convo and he started sayin yeah i was really gonna kiss you but she wouldent let me and he then told her his phone was goin dead he would call me back later well i waited a few mins. and called him and hes like uhh im doin somethin ill call u back later well he called me back adn i jsut acted like everything was fine even though it wasent then he called me today after he got off work and i metioned it and hes like i was really playn and the only reason i wanted to kiss her is casue u thought i wouldent and i told him no matter what he isent soupposed to want to and hes like well im sorry im just havin a good time( thats his excuse for everything) and i told him it reallyhurt my feelins and hes like oh im so sorry i really am it wil never happen again. well i just hung up with him a sec ago and i asked for some help from my friends they all told me hes jsut tryin to make me jelous and i should break up with him we have been datin a year next sat. and i really love him i would do anything for him but i dont want to have a reltionship with someone whos gonna do that and now i just dont feel like i can trust him. will u guys plezz tell me what u think and tell me if i should break up with him or not! i would really like to have some responses by 12 tonite... Thanx
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--- Sunday, August 14, 2005 - Update:
Answer by: tropicalhunny03
Ok I dident break up with him i came very close though! I told him he had one more chance and if he messes it up it was over. He apoligized repeatdly I dident accept it. I dident no if I should have or not. He said that he really loves me and he dient mean to hurt me like he did. He said he was jsut playin around. (even though i highly doubt that) I told him he would have to earn my trust back casue i cant trust someone who filrts around with my cousin in front of me. he said he understands. He even started cryin, I dont no if things are gonna work out but i hope they do. But if this continues to happen then it is definalt gonna end soon. Thanx for your advice Nick i really appericate it! Thanx again!
Well...you're in kind of a tough spot. I'll give you my opinion on the situation, but in the end the decision is yours.
When your boyfriend was talking to your cousin on the phone when you listened in, he told her that he really wanted to kiss her if you weren't around. I believe he meant that, and that his apologies to you were not sincere. You saw how he interacted with her on the lovesac, and he continually talked about wanting to kiss your cousin. Remember...he's going out with YOU. It's normal to have a slight "interest" (using that word losely) in others, but he took it to far. Your trust for him is gone...once that happens most relationships end.
If this is the first time this has happened, I'd let it go and give him another chance. I'm a believer that everyone makes mistakes, and deserves another chance, but don't let him take advantage of you. Love is something very difficult...I was in love with this one girl for months only to find out most of the time she just used me to kiss me. I always knew that her feelings for me weren't as strong as mine for her, but I thought her intentions were good. It took a real friend to get me to see this (and my friend could see I was being used)...But I learned the hard way, and got hurt. Listen to the advice your friends give you who know this guy. It's easier for them to see because they're on "the outside looking in." The saying "love is blind" is very true.
I hope some of this helps. Please let me know what happens, or if you need anymore advice.
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