i met a girl two weeks ago and i hung out with her at my house for a couple hours one night. I met her through my sister. She is 18 and i am 20. That night she told me that she wont have any friends now that all of her friends left to school and i proceeded to tell her that i have the same problem. When she left she told me that i have to take her out sometime. I told her to call me when she wanted to hang out. Since then i have spoken to her a couple of times online and i told her again to call me when she wanted to hang out. Still no call so i just asked her what she was doing next weekend and she told me that she didnt know, probably going to college parties. I didnt say anything for a while then told her that i wanted to see the blue man group and she said she hasnt seen them and wants to but promised a best friend that she would save that exprience for them. I thought i made it obvious that i wanted to go out with her but not sure if she picked it up. I question that she even likes me but that first night everything went really good. What do i do next. I really want to go out with her but i dont want to look despirit. Where do i go from here? Does she even like me? What should i do?
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--- Monday, August 29, 2005 -
Answer by: In Christ
I don't think there's any chance of you looking "desperate" here, we're talking about one girl you have interest in... so in that respect you should chill, don't over-analyse yourself.
Here's the deal - she wouldn't say you have to take her out some time if she was giving you the brush off, she wouldn't waste her time chatting with you online if she was giving you the brush off either. These are all good signs; maybe she's just a little nervous or unsure of how to act with you? It can be hard if you really like someone but are nervous for whatever reason.
Tell her that you really would like to arrange something with her, even if it's just going out for a drink or seeing a film, it doesn't matter to you, you'd like to get to know her better... that just leaves her to tell you when she's free - if the excuses continue then maybe she's just too nice to give a straight forward - "I don't really wanna go out with you". Give her the chance to prove you wrong though, she only gave you one excuse (and that was for a best friend) so it's definitely worth you trying again - making a few suggestions, at least.
Be cool, throw a few ideas in, put the ball in her court. If she's interested she WILL respond and from what you've described so far I reckon she wants to go out with you, she's maybe just a tad on the nervous side, it happens to us all :-)
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