This seems like an odd way to approach this, but appropriate. I met this girl over the internet who would appear to be my ideal match. However, she lives all the way accross the country, so I can't really visit her on a whim. On a sort of plus side, she is always on the computer, so I can talk to her any time I like. We've gotten to know each other quite well, but she seems very shy, and doesn't really like talking about herself.
We're both of a decent age, twenty and twenty-one, I like her a lot, and she said that if I lived closer she would go out with me. What I want to know is if there is a way to ask her if she feels as strongly for me as I do for her without sounding like "Do I mean anything to you?" She pretty much only talks to me, online, and only leaves the house for school.
What I would like to be able to do is ask her to be my girlfriend, visit back and forth to see each other every so often and eventually move in somewhere together. I know that's kind of lofty, but... it's an idea at least. I want to know how she feels, though, and it's hard to get her to talk about that, so I'm a little bit at a loss.
We're good enough friends to where I can say most anything and not have it really faze her, but I'm unsure of how she would react if I asked. Is there a way I can find out how she feels without looking like a creep? Anything I should look for?
Little help? Thanks.
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--- Friday, September 9, 2005 -
Answer by: Red_Roses
Well...
Online dating seems to be the "in" thing in this day and age, and many people find great mates through such services.
If you want to know how she feels, then simply ask. Just say something like, "You know, I really like you and feel a connection with you... do you feel the same?"
If she does, then perhaps you two may have something. If not, then you have your answer, and can simply move on.
--- Tuesday, September 6, 2005 - I say go for it!
Answer by: love pro adviser
Well online relationships can take a toll, but can go in the way the person wants it to go and that is where you are at. I say you should follow your heart and use your best judgement and then, ask her. I would advise you do go and visit her. Don't let it be a suprise for her or that can take the way to a toll. Try to go with the flow and chat with her some more. Then ask her when you feel ready to ask her. Don't be afraid and you'll do fine. Trust me. So good luck and take my advise wisely.
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