I was in a relationship for 2+ years. She fell in love. I did too, but the problem was I had denied my feelings all that time. I rarely expressed to her how I really felt about her and her 5 year old daughter. Well needless to say we broke up. I never treated her badly. As a matter of fact we complimented each other very well. The problem besides me expressing my love to her on how I felt for her was that I had a plan. I was always very honest with her. My plan was to move to Atlanta and start a new life (I was very stubborn about this). I am a teacher and they pay teachers there better than here in Miami. When we broke up 2 weeks later I had opened my eyes and realized what i had lost. So i tried to make things work. I figured there was nothing wrong with expressing myself since I rarely did it. I even proposed to her, but she declined. Unfortunately she had met some other guy, at salsa lessons which she went once a week for one hour. Now i know from a reliable source there was actually no cheating involved. I’m 31, the new guy she is dating just turned 23. She is 24 going on 25. Right after we broke up she started immediately dating this guy. The new guy moved in as of August 1, 2005 after a month and half. She has a 5 year old daughter. We saw each other for lunch on Tuesday, July 26, 2005 and parted ways. However, the last emails of that same day expressed a solid chance to rekindle if it does not workout with her new relationship. And i just found out that as of August 13, 2005 she is engaged.
Can you address the issue of a rebound relationship which is the case with my Ex. How long does a rebound last? How dangerous is it? Do rebounds work? Whats the time frame?
Can you address the issue of rekindling an old relationship? (i am very hopeful that she will wake up and open her eyes given the fast paced nature of the her case)
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--- Friday, September 16, 2005 - Oh no way.
Answer by: love pro adviser
Listen here now. You don't really want to do rebounds. They end up in the worst situations ever and trust me on this one becuase I've seen one where it went from good to the ugliest ever. Don't do a rebound. Thats not the way you want to go. The only advise I can offer is that you try to just move on and try to see if you can find someone else. Good luck and take all of our advises seriously.
Adrian Barcomb/Love pro Adviser
--- Friday, September 9, 2005 -
Answer by: konway
In Atlanta, there's a woman waiting for a nice guy like you to bump into her on the street. Get the hell away from Miss Rebound and Miami and find Miss Atlanta.
--- Friday, September 9, 2005 -
Answer by: Red_Roses
I left advice in your other (first) post.
--- Thursday, September 8, 2005 - None
Answer by: ltsmash
Tough one, I had a very very similiar experience and I'm glad its over. You have to think of yourself. You cant put your life on hold in the hope that someday this girl will end her rebound relationship and come back to you. This means you have to forget about her and get on with your life. You asked her to marry you, she declined. I know it is hard but you have to accept it. There are no rules on how long a relationship will last, even if it is a rebound as you say. Why are you putting yourself through this, stick to your plan and make that move. Her loss if you get on with your life and make something of it, your loss if you hang about living in the past and pining away for her... The decision, my friend, is yours.
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