This guy and I have known each other for 12 years. We started dating about 14 months ago, became engaged and started buying a house together about 5 months ago. While in the process of obtaining a mortgage, a woman who worked there tried to date my future husband. He called her and she called him a few times while he was at work. When I found out about these calls I acussed him of there being something going on. Because of this we had an arguement and broke up. We were broke up for 2 months. During this time he started dating this woman who is 16 years older than him and actually married her in June. After a week of marriage he left her and started talking to me again. He said it was all a big mistake and he was going to file for divorce as soon as he could get the money together. We talked and talked and eventually started seeing each other again. This lasted for 6 weeks at which time we had a disagreement about something trivial at which time he once again left. This time it was only for 2 weeks. During the two weeks he started talking to this woman again, but came back to me saying it wasn't going to work out and they were going to get their divorce. He just wanted me and only me, and realized we'd have to learn to talk out our disagreements. Two days after making this declaration, he came to my house to tell me he loved us both, loved her more, but felt obligated to me and working on our relationship. I told him to leave and not call or visit again. That I was tired of the games. He had to make a choice and stick with it. I feel horrible about this, because I do love the guy very much, but don't feel like he really knows what love and commit is. I don't know how to let go and start dating again or if I even should. My friends all tell me to wait for him to get his head on straight because everyone can tell how much he really cares and loves me. I'm 35 and not getting any younger. What are the chances that it will ever work out for us? We have a lot in common and he and this other woman have prectically nothing in common.
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--- Friday, September 9, 2005 -
Answer by: konway
This guy is a jackass. I completely agree with Red Roses. Cut him loose and don't look back. You'll like yourself a whole lot better when you do.
--- Friday, September 9, 2005 -
Answer by: Red_Roses
Um...
First of all, DON'T listen to your friends if they are telling you to actually wait for this creep.
And this guy is most definitely a CREEP.
Bottom line is; this guy CHOOSE this other woman over YOU. If he loved YOU and wanted to be with YOU, he would have. Instead, he actually married this other woman. WOW is all I can say.
Get your self-respect together. You should NOT be accepting this guy's phone calls, etc. He blatantly dumped on you BIG TIME, and is STILL MARRIED to this other woman. Furthermore, he TOLD you he loved her more than you. WHY are you still talking to him!?!?
The last and final thing you should say to this jerk is that HE is obligated to work things out with HER -- HIS WIFE, and to never contact you again.
Move on. There are plently of better guys out there. Realize this and your self-worth.
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