Hey everyone. I've encountered a situation that I really could use some help on.
I was in love with one girl for almost seven months before I was able to move on. Even though we never went out, we would still kiss or hold hands, and stuff like that. I found out thst she lied to me and used me. I was crushed at the time, and it's what made me finally decide to let it go. I knew she never liked me as much as I liked her, but I thought her intentions were good. She didn't know that I found this out.
We still maintained contact, and kept our friendship going, but it wasn't the same. She would get mad at me for every little thing. Finally, she crossed the line, and I called her out on all the lies. At first she was pissed, but then she apologized, and admitted she screwed up.
The problem is that we're kind of starting to flirt, and express interest in each other. I want to give her another chance, but I gave her many, and got taken advantage of. She was my first love, and that's why it's so hard to let go...But I don't want to set myself up to get hurt again. Every indicator in my body is telling me to stop this before I start...but I don't know if I want to.
Can any of you help me out, and tell me what you would do? Thanks a lot.
Nick
Responses to this article:
--- Friday, September 16, 2005 - There just doing there job. Thats all.
Answer by: love pro adviser
Hey. Even i would agree with them and you know what, I was in the same situation. I really had to let her go and she definately regreted ever seeing or messing around with me. So I just glad that there advise helped and I'd offer the same, But i'm slow at responding to these kind of things because I'm busy helping other people that come to me for help. So sorry if this is too late for ya but I try. Good luck with finding you next true love.
Adrian Barcomb/Love pro Adviser
--- Sunday, September 11, 2005 - Thanks
Answer by: nickpalazini
Konway, and Red_Roses,
Thanks so much for your help...You both are very right. And I know what I have to do.
Thanks again, Nick
--- Friday, September 9, 2005 -
Answer by: Red_Roses
For many, "first loves" don't always lead to a fairy tale.
Nick, it's ok to let her go for good and move on.
She can't be trusted, and she hasn't proven anything to you that she would deserve a second chance.
--- Friday, September 9, 2005 - nick nick nick
Answer by: konway
Nick - Sometimes when nice guys are trying to prove that there are still some out there, they run into not so nice girls. I'm sure this girl is wonderful and a great friend, but it also sounds like she knows exactly what she can do to you because of your feelings for her. I would say that a relationship with her is not in your best interest, but a friendship is good. If she tells you that she wants you back, make sure it's not because there's nobody else out there for her to go out with or because she needs something from you. She said she used you before but you didn't say for what, but the fact that you know this for certain and also that she's lied to you should make here even less appealing.
She must be hot because you're telling us that you know you shouldn't but you want to anyway. I guess it's up to you, but I would say that there's probably a girl out there who will want to be WITH you and not want to use and lie to you.
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