Well I was living in spain for the summer and I met a guy on the second week who I was intimate with.He was my first sexual partner but he didn't know this(I think).Anyway at the start I wasn't too interested in him,he was just sort of a polly filler but the more time i spent with him the more he grew on me.He been living there for a year so he was used to girls coming and going and I knew I was just another girl offering him sex. But I was falling for him,I was finding myself uninterested in any other guys no matter how attractive they were yet I never admitted my true feelings to myself. And the more keen I got on him the more detached he became,he never called me,payed me attention and was always flirting with other girls. I knew he was using me for sex, i just pretended to myself thats all i wanted too(when all i really wanted was the cuddle). We had a fight a couple of weeks before I came home because he saw me kissing another guy,but he was always saying he wouldn't mind if I were with another guy(obviously because he wanted me to say it in return) because I was only living there for a short period.But what i can't comprehend is why did he care because he never showed interest in me anyway. After that we agreed to just be friends but on my last night I went back to his place and we slept together. Well I'm home two weeks now and I haven't heard a word from him.Not a phonecall,text or anything(which i'm really not surprised at) but I can't stop thinking about him.He's on the top of my mind all the time.Does anyone know anyway i could erase him from my memory?
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--- Sunday, September 18, 2005 -
Answer by: Red_Roses
It'll take some time, but you'll eventually get over him.
This relationship has been based on sex from the start, and you knowing his behavioral patterns with the fairer sex -- you are quite well-aware that this guy is out for a good time, and that's about it.
Unless you are looking for just a good time as well, when dating, it's best to hold out on having sex at least until you get to know the person better, understanding if they're on the same page as you are in regards to dating and relationships, etc. Otherwise, if you have sex with a person so soon without getting to know them, the relationship won't be based upon anything else but sex, and it'll make things awkward if emotions get involved.
The first step to moving on is to accept that this relationship was probably a summer fling... you can't erase him from your memory, but you can take it as a learning experience (and that's always valuable in itself). In the meantime, the best thing for you to do is to hang out with your friends, get out and keep busy. That's always a good remedy for nursing sore feelings.
I hope you have used protection for your own health reasons, considering this guy's reputation as a play-boy.
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