I have been going out with this guy for about 2 months now. He has an ex who he went out with for almost 4 years. They broke up, and a couple of months later we started hanging out. She owes him money and they share a cell phone plan, it's under his name, so they still talk. She has been saying that she is sorry and that she will change, and that she wants to get back together. He had been saying no. Until recently.
About 3 weeks ago, he started thinking about if he was making a mistake. He said that she came to his house with pictures of when they first started going out, and it made him really upset, and so he started to question things, like why did that affect him so much. He said that he is really confused because he really likes me, but still has feelings for her.
Since he seemed so confused I told him that we should take a break and see other people. That was about 2 weeks ago, and he has been seeing both of us during this time. He still has not made a decision. I need to know if I am just wasting my time, if he will pick her, or if I should wait him out. He says that once he has made up his mind, at least he will know that he won't question whether he made a mistake. But I am getting a little nervous and impatient. He says that he still needs a little more time. Is he just playing me for a fool?
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--- Wednesday, September 21, 2005 -
Answer by: Red_Roses
Well... all I can say here is that I agree with Adrian... I think this guy is just plain uncertain and has no idea what he wants, or who he wants to be with. It's clear that he never was over his "ex" and that he still wants to date her.
Bottom line here is that he isn't ready to be in a serious relationship. Don't waste your time and wait for this guy. DON'T EVER wait for someone unless they deserve it. He obviously, does not. As the saying goes, there are other fish in the sea. Keep on fishing.
--- Tuesday, September 20, 2005 - I don't really know for sure
Answer by: love pro adviser
Well I really don't know about this one but I might have a feeling that you should ask him that. HE's actually stalling time and if he doesn't know who to chose, then I say you should just move on with your life. He can't decide who to chose and that's a sorry exuse. Men should not be confused and not decide who's the lucky person. Besides, he has spent time with the other girl. That could mean that she might be the one he's still in love with and even if thats so, then You have a problem on your hands. He just does'nt seem like the person who you would like to wait upon and find out. I say just move on. Good luck.
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