Title: should I wait for him to make up his mind

By: marie342005

This guy and I have known each other for 12 years. We both recently got divorced. He let me know his always cared and loved me, but couldn't let me know how he felt. So we started dating, and dated for 9 months. Got engaged, started looking for a house, I got pregnant (pretty much in that order). We broke up and both started dating other people. He actually moved in with a woman 16 years older than him, I just dated. Two months later he wanted to get back with me, he was miserable without me, and they had nothing in common he said. we started dating again and things were going great. Unfortunately this woman and he started to communicate again. Then one night he comes to me saying he loves me, but he loves her!! How can this be when he's been telling me what a mistake she was earlier this summer, and he didn't know what he was thinking. Anyway I told him to leave and not ever to call or visit me again. He called me the next night asking for some stuff he supposedlyleft here. When I said all I had was a few movies he yelled and said he'd see me in court. I didn't hear from him for a week. Then I got 6 messages from him all within a 24 hour time spane. When I called him back he once again wanted his stuff, but now the list had grown. I still didn't have the stuff, but did ask him about my library movie that he still hadn't returned, which he keeps promising to do the next time his in my town. I said I'd put his movies on the porch, he said no he wanted to meet me somewhere that someone could take them off the porch. I said I wouldn't meet him that he could get them from the porch if he wanted them. He said he'd see me in court then hung up. That was a week ago today, and I haven't heard from him since. Do you think he's just confused? How could he love two of us at the same time, Is she more of a mother figure to him (his own mother was horrible)? Most of our friends say he'll be back because he's loved me for so long, and only known her for a few months, but how can I be sure (I know he did once)? I don't want to wait around for ever, but I do really love him, and all I think about is him. Should I try to talk to him, or completely ignore and break all communication like I am doing? My friends say he won't be able to stand not seeing me or talking to me for long, and he'll be back. I do know he asked me why we couldn't stay friends and that he didn't want to give up our 12 year friendship. Do you think absence will make him realize his true feelings for me like it did this summer, or will I loose him to this other woman who he is now once again living with? What should I do? How should I proceed with this whole thing? I don't want to push him away forever, but I don't want to try to get him back if this is going to happen everytime she comes back into our lives. How can I get him to stick to a decision and how can I know he has before I take him back (if that opportunity even comes up). I have other guys that are wanting to date me but all I can think about is the one I just broke up with. PLEASE HELP!!!

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Thursday, September 15, 2005 -
Answer by: konway