Title: How do you talk to a girl?

By: shy_and_confused

Well that seems like a pretty strait forward question, doesn't it. But here's the wrench in the situation, I have a quirk were I generally only talk to people in 2 situations, first I know them and haven't got a problem talking to them, second my job calls for it. To make matters worse I'm also shy around people, especially girls I'm interested in.

The problem is there is a girl I'm interested in, the problem being I've only talked to her once, and it was related somewhat to the second situation. She is a sister of a friend and coworker of mine, and I only talked to her to tell her were she could find her sister.

Now I've come to the decision that I should talk to her, and its not like we don't have any common interests or anything in common at all. Its just that I haven't a clue on how to talk to her without straining my relationship, by which I mean friendship and professional relationship, with her sister, especially if she's not interested or her sister disagrees with me making approaches at her sister.

As you can expect from my "wrench" I don't just go up to people and start talking, even idol. I'm also not very flirtatious, the closest I get is with the girls sister, but that is more like what you would expect siblings to do to each other, you know random acts of verbal shots at one another, or a rivalry if you would.

How would you go about talking to someone without "exposing your hand" until you know how the people who might become involved in the situation will react?

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Saturday, September 17, 2005 -
Answer by: Red_Roses