I am 25. My boyfriend is 26. We have been dating ever since March. I LOVE him and feel that he is the best person to talk to. He would be my best friend if he wasn't my boyfriend. We never argue or fight, but I have one problem against him. It is his family. He lives with his father and ill brother in a small apartment. He father is a double workaholic. He works 24 hours a day/6 days a week. He doesnt' come home until on his day off. His brother is 30, mentally challenged, asthmatic, diabetic, and has many diseases genetically inheritted by his mother who died many years ago. Because his father is not home often, he hired a homecare nurse to take care and cook for his brother 6 days a week. The nurse only stay at his apartment from 9-7 each day. Afterwards, his brother is alone. The father doesn't feel comfortable leaving his brother alone and places a burden on him to be home shortly after 7 to be with his brother in case if his brother needs him. If he stays outside too long, his father would get upset with him, which is the last thing that he wants. His father never understands his 2 sons, not easy to talk to, and is a very tough and mean father. He is a respectful son since birth only he father wouldn't understand. It is not easy for him to take care of someone and treat the person like a son/daughter. He is more of a father to his brother than his father is. That takes away a lot of his time. It really frustrates me because PERSONALLY, I don't like dating guys having family burden, for example in his case. I tried talking to him about how I feel, but he doesn't want to talk to me about. He is a person that always hides everything to himself, which I don't feel that close to him like I used to before. I have thought about separating from him, but no because I do LOVE him. I would do anything for him. HONESTLY. If we separated, it will be hard for me to find a guy or any person that suits me more than him. It is my first love. But I can't seem to accept the fact. I really wish there was something I can do to help him. What should I do? Should I keep him or should I let him go? Please help.
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--- Friday, December 23, 2005 - Accept it, or leave
Answer by: Gregg@LoveIsGreat.com
It sounds like he is being a very responsible brother and son. You know his situation and there is nothing to be done to change it. Either you REALLY love him and accept his situation and figure out how you can be a part of his life, or leave.
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