Title: advice

By: isabella

i met this guy about 4 months ago through a friend, the first night that i met him we had kissed, about a couple days later we ended up having sex. he told me from the beginning that all he wanted was sex. he told me that he doesn't want a girlfriend he doesn't like that word. i was cool with that. well for about two weeks straight he would call me (i wouldn't call him) and i would go over and well you know....after we would hook up he would always want to cuddle, which at that time i was okay with it cause i knew it was just sex. well after the first two weeks he said something that made me mad, i talked to him about it but he really didn't care that it bothered me. we stopped talking for about 3 weeks. since we had mutal friends i decided to call him and let him know that i didn't want it to be akward anymore since we all usually hang out at least once a week, he said he wasn't mad at me or anything.
needleass to say we started hooking up again...for about 2 weeks again, him doing the calling then we stopped again. this time he stopped talking to me (i heard he was talking to a girl)after about 2 more weeks we were hooking up again. at this point i started to get feelings for him, he would always be like you would be a good gf wouldn't you, and things like yes i like you but i don't want a girlfriend. well at this pt i decided that since i was getting feelings for him that i should end it. i ended it (he said that i could still call him and that we were cool)well i saw him a couple of times at friends house and a party and we were civil just didn't really talk. one night at a party (he was drunk) he asked me to if i wanted to have sex not once but like 3x i told him no. we hadn't had sex for a little over a mth. even though i am a girl i have needs too, i recently called him (i was drunk) and we hooked up. through this whole time he would tell my friend that i was too young for him (5yrs apart)when we wouldn't talk he would always ask my friend if i asked about him and she would say no and she said that would bother him cause it's like he wanted me to be some jealous woman that called him all the time or some psycho chick. they say that i have the ball in my court only bc i got what i wanted, when he wanted to hook up i would tell him no but when i wanted it i got it. they say that he likes me but is afraid to let himself like me. i don't know what to think. the times that we were hooking up we would do everything that a bf gf do, just not the title. does he like me and what do i do? i'm so confused i don't know if i am wasting my time (which i might be) i do like him and i would like a relationship with him but if he doesn't want one with me then i can't force him. i just need a guys opinion. thanks for your advice.

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Tuesday, January 17, 2006 - A guys opinion
Answer by: jonathanr33D