I dont know what the hell to do. Im in love with a girl who I saw cheating on me TONIGHT!!! I saw her and this other guy in the act when I got over to her place. I saw in through the window and I didn't confront them right then because I thought I might lose my cool.
Ive been going out with this girl for a year now. We've had our ups and downs but I really thought things were going good. She told me that she loves me TODAY! What the hell am I going to do?
I am 90% resolved that this is the complete and total end of our relationship but I am so screwed up inside that I don't even know what to think right now.
HELP!?
-Dude
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--- Sunday, January 22, 2006 - My two cents
Answer by: JonathanR33D
Yo Punk8088,
All I can say to you is "WoW"! This girl is as trust-worthy as a paid snitch! Let's see if you can trust her now - even after her pouring her little heart out to you and revealing her feelings as if she were serious about the relationship. But wait until you are calm and confront her. Just tell her that you were comming to visit and caught her in the act. Many times it beter to actually catch them in the act because like many, she will probably still deny that this took place - even if you caught her on camera!
But I don't know what to tell you man. This girl has gone to the point of "no return" in my book. I would be the bigger/better person and leave it alone, no matter how hard it is after a WHOLE year. I mean, what can she possible say, or do at this point to convince you that she has actually changed? Absolutely nothing! No matter how many times you tell yourself you are going to trust her from now on, you'll find yourself peaking through her window and checking on her when she's out with friends. No one should have to live a relationship with this type of trust.
I can only give advice to you all, so I can't tell you what to do with YOUR girlfriend; that's for you to decide. But be wise and thing long ways down the road. But honestly, I can vividly see the future of this episode. If you do opt out, be the winner. She should be the one feeling torn. Confront her. Tell her about the past; about how the relationship had its ups/downs. Tell you tried your best to do the right thing. She took things way out of hand and you're through with it. Be calm about it though - else, it wont look at good and she'll probably not care as much about you leaving. Put a little emotion into it - if you are that type of person, that is. When you are done talking, turn and walk away.
If you Do decide to do away with it, keep your head up. Take life a day at a time b/c time is what it will take to heal where you are hurt. It's funny how we let people into our life. At first, our heart is WHOLE and over time & with effort, we allow others(through trust) to take part of it. To me, it's kind of like purchasing stock. So you and your mate end up sharing the same heart - and when the relationship ends, however, her piece is torn off. Your heart don't feel complete and it takes time to heal as it once was. And trust me, I for one believe I have the certified rights to be telling you this. I thought what me and my GF had was the greatest thing in the world; as if we were meant to be. After the break up, I thought my life was over. All kinds of scary things ran through my head. But someone told me that it would take time to get over her. I'm sitting there like "yeah right."
But they ended up being right. I ended up feeling so good afterward that I started helping other people with these issues. If you were to ask for my advice back then, you would have probably been told that love don't exist, and that women are full of sh*t - which is NOT true at all, hehe. Good luck with whatever decision you make though!
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