My partner and I have been dating for nearly 9 months. We have both fallen in love with each other deeply, however yesterday she told me she didn't love me the same way she loved my when we first started dating and is worried her honeymoon period was over. She then said she stills loves me but is scared of the fact she wants to spend the rest of her life with me because she always thought she would be with her ex of 3 years and now she is with me. I feel the main problem is that she still talks to her ex every few weeks and this is playing with her feelings. If she stopped talking to her ex do you think it will help her mind become more clear that she is more in love with me then she is?
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--- Tuesday, January 31, 2006 - My two cents
Answer by: JonathanR33D
Hi PJW11,
I'm not going to make a huge response on this topic because I pretty much covered a similar situation in the post: "Suicidal Thoughts." Read it because both situations have a lot in common - and I think it's nearly enough for you to get by with.
The only thing I will say to you is that her ex DO play a major role in this issue and you wont really get genuine sense of where you stand with her right now. Again as I've stated, you're timing was just wrong. It's only right to date someone when they are emotionally stable; else you'd be doing nothing more than waisting your own time. Just step back and give her the time she need to recover. She'll eventually get over her ex... we all do, no matter how serious it is/was with one. But I really would encourage you to read that post. It covers something similar in more detail, though it not entirely for your situation. Good Luck
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