well, my ex of three years NOW wants to get back with me after half a year and I've been trying to get back with him for the longest too! but i think the only reason why he wants to get back together is because i have finally moved on! well... but the guy "a" has a gf and wants to break up with her and i guess has tried but if he really wanted to, it would have BEEN done! but me and guy "a" have been talking for a while and he says he "loves me" but i don't know what to say about that! and yea he said we would be together but he still has his gf! i really do like him but he not only cheated on his gf with me (cuz i thought they were going to break up) but also some girl from camp! now guy "b", me and him have known each other for about a month now and started liking each other the moment we met! but we stopped talking cuz i liked guy "a" but he still likes me and i think im starting up to a lot now but i don't know what to do about my ex and guy "a". it is my ex of three years, i don't want to throw that all away but then i don't want to go back to the way things use to be either. guy "a" says he loves me and i do have STRONG feelings for him too but he cheats a lot and i don't know if he would do it to me even though he says he loves me and not his gf! now guy "b", he is different from the both of them, well they all are kinda a like but they each have something that the other doesn't! and guy "b", hes very smart when it comes to relationships and knows how to deal with things but he does remind me of my ex in many ways and like i said, i don't want things to go back to the way the use to be. but then he is better than my ex and unlike guy "a" is not a cheater like that! theres something about him that just gets me but i really do like guy "a" a lot! but guy "b" is always on my mind. maybe its obivious but i feel like if i go with guy "a" he might change and get tried of me and cheat on me as well, and my ex, he wants me to change basically everything and i'm not going to just to please him. guy "b", i don't know what to expect from him and like all the others, i don't really know if i can believe him. whatever he turns out to be like them and i really don't want to get hurt again even though i did hurt him because of guy "a". i'm so confused! i don't know how to deal with this and i don't want to lose any of them and i don't want to get hurt from any of them either! HELP!
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--- Wednesday, February 1, 2006 - My two cents
Answer by: JonathanR33D
Hi Pain_Iz_Luv,
All I can say is that all of you have some serious issues to deal with. Sorry to put it that way, but you really need to pay more attention to yourself right now. You actually slept with guy "A" because you thought he and his GF were breaking up? That is wrong, and that's the LEAST you should understand. You will see how it feels to be in her shoes if it were to happen to you that way. I actually feel bad for HER. She's probably clueless about this, while he's out having sex with you and this girl from camp.
Also, you make yourself look bad because you KNOW he's cheating on this girl with YOU and yet another girl; and you still want him??!! Sorry but there's not a person here who can help you unless you get yourself together first. And by all means, leave guy "A" alone... period. This guy is good at what he do best. He get to have the three of you by simply playing with your heads; that simple. Your feelings for him wont take you anywhere with this guy, and NO they wont change anything about him. Now if you feel as if guy "B" is similar to your ex, but better in a way, it WOULD make sense to go for him. Personally, if HE even have any sort of serious issues, you should reconsider; but that's just the way I see it.
Anyhow, before dealing with ANYBODY, you should get YOURSELF together also. I mean.... I seriously hope you have recognized your issues. If you haven't, you'll just make things more harder for yourself and others. I personally think I've given you the best advice anyone can give. I mean, you really don't think some other good person in their "right mind" is going to go along with your view on this, do you? If you look back at ANY of my responses to posts, you will not find a single review where I encourage people who have issues themselves - period. What more can I say?
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