've been in a relationship for 2 years. After 1 year we broke up but continued to hang out just like if we were a couple. Towards the end of last year I got pregnant, but do to my circumstances right now we decided to put a termination to the pregnancy and decided to get back together as boyfriend and girlfriend.
I feel that things are not the same on his behalf, my love towards him continues to be the same. I had a conversation with him regarding the matter and he told me just recently that the love he once had for me is not there anymore, that he does like me but its not love.
I want to know if I am at a point where I should ignore my feelings and let him go or do I fight to get his love back and if so how do I do that. Deep in my heart that is what I wish for the most.
We are young, he is 23 and I am 24.
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--- Friday, February 10, 2006 - want his love back
Answer by: nosufras22
the first time we broke up because he said his love had fade out. a week after we broke up i went ahead and took a vacation for 2 weeks, when i came back we met and he told me that his love for me was still the same, but we need it to fix a few things between his family and i before we could have a relationship again. so i did, i fixed everything up and became really close to his family again. but yet we never got back together on a serious relationship. until november (we were "dating" and all for about 6 months until we got back together) that is when it all happen the pregnancy.
regarding him cheating, we have talked about it and he says he never has and honestly i don't know of him actually doing so. so i would say no he has not cheated on me.
regarding the termination we talked about and we decided that that was the right thing to do for both of us and that we would get through it together.
but now, everything is different, he is cold towards me a lot of times. he doesn't enjoy hanging out as much anymore.
so, i'm really confused. and after everything its really painful to let go. i am so attached to him now. i feel like i lost my baby and i am also loosing the man i love.
--- Thursday, February 9, 2006 -
Answer by: hatsumomo
i have a few questions. why did you guys break up the first time? also, was he faithful during your 'break'? also, are you 100% sure he was supporting the idea of the termination?
im not totally sure without the above questions being answered, but it seems your boyfriend may have moved on. not neccessarily to another person but just in general. love grows and fades as it pleases. it may also be that the termination has made him feel reserved with you, and that he is not confronting some demons he has regarding the issue. if that is the case, you should sit down and explain why you and him have to work through those problems together.
but as you say you are both young, and if things arent working out it may simply be time to take different directions in life.
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