ok well this guy i have liked for ages (lets call him steve) we keep flirting n everyone has asked us if we like each other and steve says well yeh I like her and his mate said no do u like like her? n steve says well i like her and we are more than friends (coz we kiss n things) n i said god this thing between us is soo confusing! neways his m8 says to him what would u do if I went to kiss her n steve said 'u'd get a slap but not by me (steve) by her' (ie me) n thats true coz I can b feisty neways his m8 laughs n goes no what would u do and he says he would laugh! (wtf!) n so his m8 goes to kiss me n steve says don't u dare! but then earlier his m8 says why don't u jus ask her out be like boyfriend and girlfriend and steve says if she's waiting for me to ask her out she will be dissapointed! but then @ the end of the night he wlked me to the station and as i got on the train he kisses me on the cheek and as he runs away he says 'love u' so as u can tell im sooo confused!
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--- Monday, February 13, 2006 - help
Answer by: greenfairyx
thanks for ur advice but the thing is we were in class the other day and some1 asked him if it was alright if he asked me out n steve said y would i mind i'll even put in a gd word for you! n steve kept saying to me that me n this guy wuld make a really gd couple n that we should go out! The thing is after the first time we kissed I found out that he had a gf and I told him that nothing was ever going to happen with us as long as he had a gf and a wk later he told me that he had dumped her n that they had just grown apart and was 2 scared to dump her until now! so did he dump his gf for me n if so why?! Please I am sooo confused... I don't think he misses his gf coz he was telling me how she got her brother to beat him up if he was seen tlking to another girl and in the end of the relationship they just never got along... and he knows that im not like that coz his best m8 is a girl and we sometimes all hang out 2gether and he knows I think shes gr8... does he like me doesn't he like me? whats going on please help! should I confront him about it like hatsumomo says or will that drive him away?
--- Thursday, February 9, 2006 - its a friends thing
Answer by: hatsumomo
this does seem a bit confusing. speaking from experience, funnily with a guy called steve, it sounds like he's trying to be the man's man in front of his friends. ive seen it more than once, where a man is kind and loving to you in the smallest but most significant ways when the two of you are alone, then acts quite obnoxious and laid back about it all in front of his friends. but if anything i would advise you not to worry, its nothing to do with you by the sounds of things and moreso to do with his ego.
its difficult to say what you can do in this situation, you can sit it out and see how it goes, or you can confront him about his alter ego's and tell him which one you prefer. as long as you tread gently and don't over analyse his behaviour with friends things should soon fall into place.
p.s. i think his friend may like you, and was trying to test him in front of you for you to see his true colours
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