Title: best friends to love?

By: Russianbarbie

I've posted back in March/April...
w/ a title of something like Friendship and lovers, or something to that extent.

Well, I have been in a weird situation for a year.
I have a best friend who i've come to know and fall for. A year long worth of deep memories, seeing one another sometimes twice a day, but yet, he has such a phobia to committment from his ex that he won't take it to the next level.
We're inseperable in every sense, and yes we have been physical. We are at least once or twice a week fully physically but says "oh we are good friends"...
After we got pretty close , I brought up my feelings. I told him that I did feel for him. He ended up writing this long and drawn out email saying how screwed up he is from his ex that he broke up with RIGHT before he met me. He knwos they are doomed but still cant get over it. He ended it w/ her so I guess there is a bit of guilt.
We are so comfortable together, best friends in every sense ,and is a high-high physical attraction btwn us, I just don't see what the thing is. What do I do? It is very hard. I am even too tired to go all into details so will write more if need be.
It wasn't just me that saw or sees how great we are together. EVERYONE who meets us even for the first time, thinks we are a couple and so in love.
What do i do , so that he might see me differently?
This weekend, I went away w/ him and his best friend and he left me a comment when we got back asking if I saw any cute boys so that I'd have someone to visit..
It's like CMON, he never said anything like that to me before..He's been a jerk to me these last few weeks and when I back away or turn away more so, he turns right around and is wonderful..
Please give me some advice..do I leave the friendship for good? BAck off? How can he see me as a woman and not just a best friend????