Title: Left for another LDR

By: aleighg

Hi,

I'm 23, and my long-distance boyfriend (he's 27) broke up with me back in December. We met last January, and we ended up in this great relationship, knowing full well that I was leaving for graduate school in the summer. By the end of the summer, we decided to give a long-distance relationship a try. We figured that it was better to try than to not try and never know.

By fall, I was in my program, and he was back at college. He eventually made friends with this girl who was a sophomore, and they spent a lot of time together. I was jealous, but only because she got to spend time with him and I was so far away. I didn't mind that they were friends, and I trusted him. Then, I found out that she liked him--that made me nervous, but he was with me and not with her. And I knew that he wouldn't cheat. We spent Thanksgiving together after not seeing each other for 5 months, and it was like we were never apart.

In December, he decided to quit school and move in with his family, and he also broke up with me. He said it was because he was going through such a tough time and couldn't handle the distance. I loved him very much, but I knew it was important for him to get his life together--as for us, we would leave that up to fate. So imagine my shock a few weeks later when I find out that he's in a relationship with the sophomore who digs him. We were still talking, and he told me this. Now, he is in a long-distance relationship with her after not being able to handle the distance with me, and he says he's in love with her too. And this girl, ironically, does not like the fact that we are working on being friends. She's very jealous. I'm glad that he sounds happy, but I feel awful that it's this girl who couldn't keep away from a guy with a girlfriend.

It hurts so much. Whether he did or didn't, it feels like I got dumped for someone else. I try not to blame myself, but I can't help but wonder if she is better than me--I feel like if he really loved me as he said, distance would have never been a problem. And I can't help but wonder if this would have happened had I not gone to grad school (I am glad I made the decision to go though--to do otherwise would have been to deny my dream, he and I both know it). What should be my next move, in regards to dealing with him, and in regards to making sure that my life is a great as possible, despite how I feel right now.

Thanks,
Amanda

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Saturday, March 11, 2006 - Re:
Answer by: aleighg

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Friday, March 10, 2006 - I don't think you two are in love
Answer by: j1m2f3