Okay, me and my guy-friend have been the best of friends for nearly a year now. This past summer, we spent the night at a friends house. My boyfriend was in France. Me and my guy-friend spent the whole night up talking, and he made a move on me. He gave me a back massage, and then we snuggled, but nothing other than that happened. I've had feelings for him before that, but even more so after that.
We only get to see eachother maybe on the weekends, because of distance. So, everytime we hangout, it's usually at one or the other's place for the night. So, he sits on me, and then we usually just lay together and watch TV or something. Weird, but awesome. So, that has been going on (the whole sitting, thing) for a couple of months now. Since mid-December. So, this past weekend, we went to a movie. Came home, did whatever, then went into the livingroom and watched TV. This happened at 1:30am. I was laying on the bigger couch, and he was sitting on the smaller couch. He started throwing pillows at me, and then came over, sat on a sectional piece of the couch and smuthered me with a pillow. Then he laid up against me. So, we watched TV. Eventually he somehow got right up along me, on the couch. After a while, he turned around and faced me. There we laid. I buried my head down into his chest, and he held onto me. We started falling asleep. So, we opened our eyes, got really close, and we finally kissed. Ahh!! So yeah. Major make-out session on my couch between 2am-5:30am. Yeah... we didn't go to bed until 5:30am!! It was great!
But it's so confusing, 'cause we made-out then, but later that day, nothing was brought up about it. Later that night on the phone, we brifely mentioned it, but never actually talked about what it meant. I really just want to know how I should approach this, because even though I've always had feelings for him, and knew that day would come, I value our friendship, but I really want to know what's going on between us now. I'm going down to his place this weekend. I don't know if anything will happen again. By the looks of things, something probably will. How, or should, I ask him "what are we doing?" and try to find out what the Hell we're doing and if we're friends, lovers, friends-with-benefits. Or if that morning meant anything... It meant something to me, and I can't stop going over such questions in my head.
Help? Please?
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--- Friday, March 10, 2006 - I say go for LOVE
Answer by: j1m2f3
Hey, I can't speak for him personally, but I can say that it sounds to me that you are simply falling for this guy. At this point could you really be just friends if you have such strong feelings for him? I think that you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. If he feels the same then go from there. If not I think you can still be friends after you find out if there is or is not something more than friendship between you two. The bottom line is that true love comes around once in a lifetime for some people and never for others. Go for love. Notice I did not say go for it meaning sex. Remember love is not about lust, so don't jump into bed with him just because you start dating. Let the relationship develop and you may think about saying a prayer to God for some guidence.
Hope this helps,
J
--- Wednesday, March 8, 2006 - Left out info.
Answer by: luckycharms100
A bit of information I left out: We're both currently single.
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