Title: CHOOSING BETWEEN 2 LOVES

By: book

I have a female friend who is caught between 2 men; The first is an ex-boyfriend whom she's dated for 12 years (they met when she was 17 and he was 20); He was very good to her but cheated on her during there relationship. They are both in there 30s now and have remained the best of friends. The other guy she met 8 months ago; He's 38, has a good job and has 2 teenage kids by his ex-girlfriend whom he never married. However in the 8 months they have known each other, another woman claiming to be his girlfriend and having a kid for him threatened my friend repeatedly. He claimed to not know anything about the girl and her claims. My friend has since physically stopped seeing him but does talk to him almost daily. He claims that he has changed since she quit seeing him physically and that he wants her back but still has never admitted to anything. Lastly I have seen the knew guy in a number of places with an unidentified female within that 8 month period. Additionally, the ex-boyfriend has come back into the picture as more than a friend, and she now feels she should choose between the 2 gentlemen; He seems to have grown-up considerably and seems to be doing things the right way now.
She has asked me what my thoughts are what she should do and I have come to all in search of an appropriate answer other than just mine. She believes that these are the only 2 guys she has feels strongly about and she wants to commit to 1 of the 2. Thank you in advance for your assistance.

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Friday, March 10, 2006 - Go back to the one she has known for 12 years
Answer by: j1m2f3