The love of my life has just broke up with me, and has left me brain damaged (going out for 1 year). Everything seemed to be going well, and then out of know where, bam. She broke up with me without any reason or cause. I just cannot figure this one out, and wanted to get some thoughts from the outside.
We have had a very strong connection ever since we met each other. The kind of connection that you feel like you have known this person for your whole life. Almost immediately, we had become extremely close and started a serious relationship. She had some problems in her life, and I was able to help her get through it which made our bond even stronger.
The past 6 months or so we have been doing the LDR thing. Everything was going well as we always stayed in touch and saw each other when we could.
She has recently started distancing herself from me, and I found out that she was drinking rather heavily. Because of my concern, I ended up driving over (5 hour drive) to her unannounced and verified she has been drinking heavily. She was not upset with me for showing up out of the blue and had a great night out with each other. Afterwards she told me that we always have fun together and that she loves me so much.
The following day, she was cold as ice to me and I left town feeling confused and unsatisfied as I did not find out what has been troubling her as she has also been depressed.
After 2 weeks of ignoring me, she finally told me that she cannot "do this anymore" and told me to "let it go". I do not understand why she cannot tell me what is wrong and why she is ignoring me??? This was all done via text messaging
Her last words to me over 3 weeks ago was "I love you, so much but I cannot do this anymore" and the last thing she said was "thank you for saving me" Also done on text messaging.
Any suggestions? What should I do? I am very hurt and confused. To top it off she is still ignoring me and it is making me very angry. She is 28 and I am 35.
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--- Tuesday, April 11, 2006 - Why is she ignoring me?
Answer by: marilyn1
No one will truly know what is wrong... first thought she found someone, but it does not sound like that. I have to agree with someone else who answered you... she still has problems!
She may still need you, what she is doing is trying to avoid hurting you not because she does not care, but because she does not want you to get involved with her problems that most likley are consuming her. Therefore she prefers to be alone... what she really needs is not you, but professional help.
Once her problems God willing are solved... she will be able to open up and love. Maybe right now all she needs is a friend, don't pressure her, when the time is right she will let you know. Pray for her, pray for yourself.... hold onto hope!
--- Monday, March 27, 2006 -
Answer by: conniption4321
You can't love somebody if you don't love yourself. Her personal issues may not have been settled when the relationship started, and it may have made them impossible to conquer. She might come around in time, but you can never be sure. Sorry if this didn't help much lol.
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