when i was 17 i met a great guy he was 21, our relationship flourished and soon after we moved in together and we had a lot of good times, i became pregnant, and my family started interfearing into are relationship and our relationship started to sour, he was growing kind of cold and said he could no longer deal with my family and that maybe sometime later in life we could meet up, he broke my heart very badly. we did not comunicate really to much through the years, but i found out he was in prision because he had one sexual encounter with a female child, as a child he was molested by a councelor,he has went through a lot of your of counceling and no longer has a problem being around kids, but last year he started writting me and informed me he has been in a relationship for the last six years with a women, and he was ending the relationship because he is unhappy. and said he has a job here that he's moving down for, and he wanted to meet his daughter and wanted to know how she was doing, he calls all the time and we talk and he has appologized over and over for leaving me and he said that he wanted to come back to me some many times during the course of the sixteen years we were apart, but he was afraid that i didnt want anything to do with him. and that i had gotten married. but i am divorced now. he wants back into my life and his daughters, he says that he is now able to handle things with my family, and would do almost anything if we could be together again, but i am so undecided what to do. my heart is starting to lean that way again, but i am resisting, looking for some advice, help! thanks
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Answer by: Kage
Whoa. My opinion is, once a child molester, always a child molester. It's sad that he had to go through it as a child, but having a bad childhood doesn't totally excuse a person for their actions as an adult. Hitler had a bad childhood too. But, is is totally possible that he has had a complete change of heart, but I think you need to give it some more time of getting to know him all over again before you get into a deeper relationship. I know you say he no longer has a problem being around kids, and that's all well and good, but I know that if I had a daughter, I would want to make sure he was 110% safe to be around. Hope everything works out for you!
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