Title: Marriage Problems

By: april1

Can anyone please help me to solve my problems between me and my husband. Im really stressed out right now and I have only 9 days to get my problems straight before i go back to my husband from my parents home.

For the last 2 months me and my husband have been physical fighting and when we fight we beat each other really badly, I get dark purple bruses all over my arm and he gets scratched all over his arm and sometime face. hes got this habit for using bad mouth and im tired of him hearing dirty things from him about me.

Because of such conditions i came back to live with my parents. I thought about going back to my husband after two week stay with my parents. at the end of the night i don't know what happend we got into a little argument over the phone and all he said was do what you have to do and don't call me. no im not calling him. i am expecting a phone call from him. it's been 16 hours i didnt speak to him i've been waiting and wating and no call...

He needs to know so many things. I left my parents home for this guy. my parents disapproved of this guy and what i didnt do for him. that was the biggest thing i could do for him but doesnt he see it. he keeps telling me i never did nothing for him. He spent $2.931 dollers from my account he paid for his bills and i have no more money left. he needed $2,400 for his lawyer fee and still he is broke. no girls in his past ever brought him anything nor did they give there money to him but why im the only one taking his shit. when i got married i never complained why we dont have any furnitures at home i know.. because he is broke and still is and till now we still don't have furniture. I dont care but sometime it feels like he is using me for his benefit. thats because my dad gave me that idea.

Before i left my husbands home after the fight i was sitting in the kitchen and he called me couple times to the bedroom.. he told me to lay next to him and then he kisses me and says i want you to go and come back soon he ask me when im coming back i told him i dont know when ever i feel like and when ever we work things out then i will come back.. he told me if you dont come back on the 13th of may then he's going back to his old days of playing and cheating and haveing sex with other people. he told me he cannot wait for me that long. so i left him i got into the taxi he started calling me i spoke and hung up spoke then hung up. same thing in the airport because i was really busy i missed some of his calls he got really worried why i didnt pick up. i came home to my parents im also on the phone everthing was going well and then we had the argument and thats when he told me not to call him no more.

In his past he slept with so many girls and broke up with so many girls but i dont know now if im the only one or he's doing something behind my back. i still accepted him for his past. im just wondering if hes hanging out with his friends or going to club cause he knows i dont like those things..

I don't understand why he's not calling me did he do something behind my back and for got about me. did i really hurt him or say something that bad that he's not calling me. because i already decided that if he cheats behind my back and i find out from him im going to divorce him and if he doesnt call me before i go back to him im not his anymore. can anyone please tell me what should i do?

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Friday, May 5, 2006 -
Answer by: shehunter5999