I've been dating this girl for over 1 1/2 years and in the begining everything was great! We always had fun and I could never get enough of being with her! We could always find something to do even if it was just hold each other all night. But then I moved out of my parents house and got out on my own and she moved out of her parents house and moved in with her cousin. Now like every weekend she wants to stay with me and never leave my side. But before she moved out of her house we would go stay at her grandmothers house for the weekend when she would be out of town and just be happy with each other just laying there talkin. Now we hardly talk when we are together and I really get annoyed with her when she always asks to sleep at my house. Alot of things have changed in our relationship. I get tired of being around her for 1 is b/c she is always complaining about me b/c I'm such a busy person I have very little time to be with her, doing my own thing, and still make time for my friends. Now i'm a very outgoing guy and she's an indoor girlie girl and some of that annoys me also. She doesn't act like she is happy anymore and I know that i'm not nearly as happy as I have been and it just seems to be getting worse everyday. I've done everything I can do to make her happy from the first day I went out with her but even when i tried everything some of the things just made things soooo hard on me. I need my time to do my things also. Not all of my time should be into this relationship and thats why i'm askin for help. I love this girl with all my heart and I just want the 2 of us to be happy! Please help make both of us happy. I need help extremely bad!!!
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--- Thursday, May 25, 2006 - Try This
Answer by: LovnmyFF
Well..i am not a rocket scientist but i say try treating her like you did when you both were happy!Treat her like she is the most important thing in your life.. above anything!You say that you used to hold each other all nite.. umm.. now you are saying you hate to have her stay with you...which is it? With a man comes a feeling of security.. she finds that in you.. maybe thats why she likes to stay with you.. and be with you all the time.. and about the whole hobbies and friends thing... have u ever invited her to come with you? Yea a guy has his hobbies.. but you could still include her..MAKE HER FEEL LOVED! i cant ecspress that enough! and you definatly need to start talking again... make the time! You will never have a good relationship if you dont tell each other how you feel!!! Why do you say she annoys you? Real love is not annoying!
--- Sunday, May 21, 2006 - Hey man
Answer by: Erak_Leel
Hey man, I had a girlfriend like that once, all girlie girl, but I loved her anyways. My only question is "have you told her any of this?" have you actually sat down with her and told her what is frustrating you? Because I have a sister who's always complaining that her boyfriend won't tell her how he feels, so maybe what your girlfriend needs is for you to tell her how You feel. If you don't I think your frustration with her will just exponentially grow until you two end up having a huge fight and blow the whole thing. Even if it's hard to talk to her about your frustrations, I think it's the best thing to do to work out your relationship. Also in her eyes, it'll make you seem mature and understanding and will most likely make her open up and talk as well, if not then I'm sorry for you. I hope it all works out!
~Erak
--- Saturday, May 20, 2006 - It will be Ok
Answer by: hurtingunderneath
ok look the reason why she isnt as happy is because she dosent see u that much its not her fault that u guys dont talk much now when girls are quiet its because there thinkin shes probably worried ur gonna leave her so shes scared and thats why she dosent seem happy just try talkin to her more i know ur busy but u can find a way dont make her your whole life but show her that u do love her ok. if u truely love her then u will learn to live with these things and find a way to fiz them now about her wanting to sleep over at ur house its probaly because wheres shes at now isnt going so well and she just wants to be with you why dont u want her over there? well ne ways if u want to go somewhere else with her then tell her that express how ur feeling u both need to sit down have a talk about whats bothering both of you ok.you cant do ne thing about this until u find out the real reason why shes acting like this. its normal for two people to move apart after a while it happens but u will get through it if u both mean so much to each other trust me. Good Luck!!!
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