Me and my boyfriend that I love so much i cant even EXPLAIN how much smokes weed, and we live with his parents, (were 18 & 19) and im 3 months pregnant...and he smokes weed with his dad..and i totally disagree with that!! his dad should be encouraging him not to smoke now that he is going to be a father, but instead his dad smokes WITH him, and it drives me insane. I get so mad about it I will leave and go to my moms and stay the night, and go back to his house the next morning, and they keep on and keep on smoking weed knowing that it bothers the hell out of me when i come back!!
He also won't get a job because he knows he will probaly get drug tested!! Also I have a HUGE jeolosy problem! I get jeolous of his family...when he will sit out in the living room with his dad and watch tv, ill get mad, and assume they are getting ready to go smoke weed,(when im sitting in our room by myself) but they are just talking and stuff. I get jeolous when he goes outside and plays with the dog, and doesnt put more attention on me.
I let little bitty things bother me, and i start fights all the time, and i dont like that i do it AT ALL. For the sake of our relationship, I wish and pray that i can control my anger issues and not everything bother me.
The reason i get so angry when he leaves our room to go play with the dog and talk to his dad though is because most of the time he leaves me to be with them when he's mad at me and we are in a fight and he wants to ignore me, and i cant interupt him and his dad.When all I want to do is talk to him about our argument, but he leaves instead to talk with his dad and get high!!
What should I do about this???? please anyone give me any advise.I am so worried about this being pregnant and all. All this stress on my baby isn't good, and im afraid im going to have a miscarriage!!..i just want to get along with my boyfriend more then anything in the world. Like I said before ...my huge jeolosy problem I believe will cause issues for us later. I get so jeolous when cute girls are on tv I will cover his eyes with my hands and not let him look at them!!! Also with the weed problem one last thing thats hard for me...he has been smoking weed since he was 14, so of course it wont be easy for him to quit! how do I deal with all this???!!
Responses to this article:
--- Thursday, November 16, 2006 - oh my god
Answer by: help2006
Girl, please get the HELL out of that relationship. That is not a real relationship. If he can't respect you and his own unborn child and stop smoking and get a job then what in the hell do you think is going to happen when the child is born. OPEN EYES!! HE IS A DEAD BEAT!
--- Saturday, August 5, 2006 - This is hard!!!!!!
Answer by: AskBecky
Dear jessnadamforever,
Like I sad, This is hard. I bet everyone tells you this, But tell him what you want, tell him you want him to change, Live with your mother until the baby is born. You can tell him that you're going to live with your mother. Maybe, just maybe, he'll listen and try to help. You should leave him, even if you love him unconditionly. Yu're baby is going to grow up, and love it's dad, he might not be a good influence. I'm sorry for what you are going thrugh. Sorry for the bad advice, this wasnt my best.
--- Wednesday, July 26, 2006 -
Answer by: DAVE
take it from a fellow weed smoker. i generally think its alright to smoke once in awhile, but now he is going to be a father and he needs to accept his responsibility. if you feel that marijuana is getting in the way of your relationship. confront him, and dont let him blow you off. he should be able to stop for you if you are bothered by it. and if he doesnt have a job, where does he get weed money? from you? he should quit at least for a month to get a job and make money, and see where it goes from there. he doesnt need to be a little pussy about it and not even try because it means not smoking that sweet chiva every day. marijuana is a good thing, and its important to him, but sometimes you need to make sacrifices. if your boyfriend wasnt so negligent, your baby could grow up in a household with marijuana and turn out fine. the majority of the blame cant be put on drugs, its his fault. he needs to see what he getting himself into. he needs to acknowledge your feelings and your views on his lack of contribution.
--- Saturday, July 8, 2006 - *sigh*
Answer by: Kage
Honey, this is going to be hard. But here: If he is not responsible enough to 1) STOP SMOKING WEED, 2) GET A JOB TO SUPPORT HIS FAMILY, then he is NOT responsible enough to be a father!!! If he'll get help, and stick with it, then good. Otherwise, for YOUR sake and the sake of your childs, you need to get out of there. I know that seems impossible, because you love him. But do you really want your kid to grow up in a home like that? With a father like that? I'm sorry if this sounds overly harsh, but your boyfriend better get his act together. If you have *anywhere* else to go but his house, please leave until he agrees to change--and actually shows that he's willing to. This is NOT your fault. Maybe you are a little jealous, so what? With a baby on the way, it's completely understandable, and he should be trying even harder to show you that he loves you and cares about you. I guess it really comes down to, what's going to be more important? Your lousy boyfriend and his lousy father, or your innocent baby who will love you unconditionally just for being his/her mom?
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