hey, thanks for reading this. my life has been an emotional roller coaster for the past couple months and its really starting to take a toll on me.
heres my story.....
my ex whom i dated seriously for a year and a half meant the world to me. he was not the greatest boyfriend in showing me that he cared and would usually ditch me when i needed him the most. we faught alot but always managed to stay together. he dumped me about 5 months ago because he diddnt love me as much as he used to and wanted to try being single for a while. even though we have been broken up for months now i still think about him every day and feel a very strong attraction toward him. we hooked up a couple times since he broke up with me...
my crush whom i met when i was with my boyfriend is a sweetie. he would hit on my tons when me and my bf were together and when my bf broke up with me we really started talking.he like my ex also ditches me at times, but he says thats the way he is he lives in the moment and cant really make plans with anyone. we became close and ended up hooking up a few times and continue to do so...
the new guy is sweeter than the both of them combined, but heres the catch... hes a drug dealer. and im talking big time drug dealer. he isnt a user but im afraid to get mixed up with the kind of people he deals with. he likes me alot and calls me sometimes but like the other 2 occasionally ditches...
heres my problem......
so there are these 3 guys and all treat me great at times. my problem is i like all 3 and would love be be with any one of them. i hang out with all of them and it seems like when something isnt going well with one of them i go on to the next and pay more attention to him then to the other one. i know for a fact that my ex and my crush dont want a serious relationship. the new guy on the other hand does. i have such strong feelings for all of them and it drives me insane. i recently ended up breaking things off completely with my ex because it was getting to hard and out of all of them hes the one i talk to the least. we all live in a small town so when im at a party all 3 are there. there was a time when i was sleeping with me ex and with my crush at the same time but since ive broken things off with my ex i now just sleep with my crush. i still think about my ex all the time though... i dont know what to do neither my ex or my crush want a serious relationship but its not just sex either.. its hard to explain the new guy has more feelings towards me and wants to be with me but i still like the other 2 as well as him
im so messed up its sooo dramatic and its one problem after another. i wish i could just like one of them but they all have such great qualities and are all attracted to me. any suggestions on what to do in a situation like this? i want to know who to choose because im not necesarily looking for anything serious either. any suggestions would help!
I dont think ne of these guys r good because the one is an ass for leavin u it seems like he juss wants u once and a while and that isnt gonna work and the other isnt lookin for a real relationship and u r so that also dosent work now the third one seems decent but unless he stops drug dealing its not a good idea if u really like the third one tell him that u cant be in a relationship wit someone whos dealing cuz its to dangerous now if he really cares about u he will get a new job or hobby but if not i think u should move on and find another guy i know its hard but all of these guys r juss going to break ur heart or hurt u if they dont change and most guys wont change. i hope that helps good luck
--- Saturday, July 8, 2006 - i was almost scathingly sarcastic
Answer by: Kage
If you're not necessarily looking for anything serious, find someone else. It sounds like you yourself know that none of these people are any good for you, so stop having feelings for them. Easier said than done, but it sounds like you could have plenty of guys to choose from, so just find another. Good luck with that.
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