Three years ago, I lost contact with a guy that I really like. We were in high school and when I started to get to know him I found out that we had a lot in common beside our inspirations and dreams for the future. I took an interest in him but I never told him that I liked him. I know he liked me too because I could tell. I am a very hard person to get to and it is very hard for me to admit that I like someone. Girls should have their pride. But even though I feel that he is NOT the ONE I still feel horrible at the thought of never seeing him again. I never said good-bye to him and that kills me. His memory pierces my soul. I miss him because there's no one quite like him, he holds himself in such a manner. At first as I tried to assimilate his loss, it destroyed me. I feel like if I have a knife stuck in my heart and that I am not good for anybody or ever will be. As the time passes, I miss him more and more, the gap between us grows and his loss is more evident. I feel like running outside and looking for him like I did when I first lost contact with him. His thought still stings me and I am depressed because I feel bad. Not knowing where he is, what's he doing, with who or why, what's he going through, kills me. Even if he has a girl, I still wish him the best in the whole world and I keep him in my generous thoughts and prayers. Now he's just a vague memory in the back of my head, his face fades but my feeling doesn't. I feel so desperate, depressed, stressed, stupid, angry and all the alike. No matter how much time passes by or who I am with, he will always be in me. He took a part of me that I will never have back. The thoughts stress me and I am really heartbroken. What can I do with these feelings of loss and hopelessness?
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--- Sunday, July 30, 2006 - Not sure...
Answer by: ek
I dont want to upset someone but i disagree with Kage's answer above, finding someone else just to help heal the pain of missing someone else, even though you dont really have feelings for him, is pretty selfish & unfair on the new person, it's usuing them for your own compfrot then throwing htem away once the person comes back in your life. not nice & is very selfish.
I think the best thing is to be strong, learn to love yourself & heal, before rushing into anything to be honest.
--- Saturday, July 15, 2006 - so similar its really creepy
Answer by: Kage
This reminded me exactly of me a few years ago. I became good friends with someone, and then he left to join the army, and I didn't even get to say good-bye, even though I was totally in love with him. The only thing there is to do is to try and find someone else. That's what I did, even though I didn't really have feelings for this guy, it helped get the other guy off my mind so it was easier to move on. And who knows? Maybe he'll come back in your life. Mine did, and now we're planning on getting married. I know how you feel, really I do, but if you just keep on living, things will turn out all right. Good luck.
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