This might sound wierd but its true. I married a guy who i loved but not anymore because he always fights with me and use bad words with me alll the time, so i am fed up with him and cannot tolerate his behavior anymore. a man i once loved now i just cant stand to see his ugly face anymore coming home from work. it feels like hes my daddy my uncle telling me what to do. i want to leave him and take him out of my life but he doesnt want to. he doesnt let me go. why does he love me so much? i mean if he does love me. i talk to other guys i talk bad about him i tell him things that he should hear. i tell him things that i dont love him i dont want to be with him and that im going to leave him but why is he still behind my ass? i want this guy to hate me and i want him to leave me. i tried leaving this yanky daddy so many times but because of my emotional feelings i go back to him. not becoz i love him! because.. i feel PITY, SAD for him. i am telling the truth im not in love.. thats what everyone thinks maybe i go back to him coz i love him... na uh.. im not a lier. if u love someone or hate someone theres nothing to lie about. but anyways.. my plan is to leave him one day and go somewhere far where he will never find me. sometimes i think hes mentally sick maybe he wants to be controlling or he will never find a girl like me. it feels like hes forcing him self and me to maintain our married life when i dont see any future with him. i think hes being in my position just the way i was in my past when i had a boyfriend who i had been for almost 3 years and i said so many things i did so many wrong things and he wanted to leave me but i made him to stay with me by saying sorry i'll never do it again screamig at him hurting him & being agressive and all the other things. then i realized my mistake that im in a relation where im forcing someone to be with me whne he use to like me but didnt anymore. so in that case my hubby must be the same way?
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--- Friday, January 5, 2007 - Sounds like a bad marriage
Answer by: gregg@loveisgreat.com
It sounds like your husband believes in commitment. He married you and said he would stay with you. From what you said, there does not sound like there is love on either side.
As for your husband forcing you to stay in the relationship, that isn't happening. You can end the relationship at any time. In your example and in your present situation either person can leave the relationship at any time. It is only you that is keeping you in the relationship.
So if you don't want to be married to this guy. Get a divorce. End it and move on.
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