im 25 and im gay i think i am but my mother once few months back found out i went to a gay datting site and told me its ok if you like guys but i dont want you to get hurt so dont get on there ok or somthing like that and it sounded like she may not care to much if i told her. my dad was gay and they broke up when i was young. i went out to see him and thats where i think i might have become gay i did not do anything but my mother and brother sister thought it was not the best inviroment for me to be in so i think thats where i became gay. my question is. would my mother except me if i told her i was gay. and whats the best way to come out to her i already told 2 friends. i want to tell my cousion to but i know i think that he would acept me for who i am but i just dont know if i should tell him and what if he told anyone elce. he told me that the family would be ok and my grandmother did not like that my dad was gay but she passed on last year and i miss her. but at the same time im kind of ok that she is gone. then now i dont have to worry about her finding out. but what do i do. any guys who are gay or girls can give me any advice that would be great thanks
I'm a bisexual woman, age 21. I have dated girls and guys, and most of my friends from high school and now a few from college are gay, both males and females.
First of all, nothing MAKES you gay. Being around your gay father can not make you gay. It is not a disease, you can't catch it by hanging around people. My best friend has been my friend since we were in 6th grade, and she doesn't have a gay bone in her body.Don't blame your father for being gay either. Perhaps homosexuality is genetically linked, we don't know that for sure, so while he may have had a part in why you are gay, he can't help it any more than you can. I realized I was gay during a gay parade in a foreign country. Its not that hanging around gays make you gay, its that you realize hey, this isn't so bad, maybe I could explore who I am a little more.
You are bisexual or homosexual if you are sexually attracted to males. Are you? Congrats, you really are gay then.
If your mom found out you were on a gay dating site, she most likely already knows. You don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to or don't feel comfortable telling them, but seriously, she pretty much already knows and seemed a hell of a lot cooler with it than my mother was. I think its ok to tell her if thats all her reaction was, was to tell you to get off the dating site, which she probably would have told you had she found out you were on a heterosexual dating site, because mothers think that dating sites are horrible. My mother's reaction was something like lots of crying and screaming and asking me what she did wrong, how she failed as a mother. So yes, I think your mom's reaction is totally cool.
As far as telling others... again, you don't have to tell everyone, which is a mistake many gay males seem to make. If you don't trust them to respect your wishes of not blabbing to the entire world, they don't deserve to know then. Plus, its not something everyone should know right away. Coming out is a lifelong process. You meet new people, you come out all over again. And why did you write about your dead grandma? I don't think she is much of an issue, being dead and all, you don't have to tell her.
Any other advice you need, just ask. But I'm not good with gay male dating stuff.
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