1. It is possible in a relationship not to argue or quarrel?
2. How would you know that this man is your future partner?
3. Can distance break the relationship even if they have the greatest love?
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--- Thursday, February 15, 2007 - Answers
Answer by: starfox_04
1- No, I don't think it is. I don't think you can even have a very very close friend without having an arguement, because no 2 people are EXACTLY alike, everyone is going to have some differences sometimes. I think the way to get around this is to learn how to compromise, something my boyfriend and I still aren't very good at yet. No one is going to be perfectly happy all of the time, but if you learn to compromise it can make the arguements a little less intense, and you both can be at least OK with the disagreement.
2- I am still trying to figure this one out myself actually. I think the key to this one is time. It takes time, years even, to get to know your best friends. I met my best friend in 6th grade and sometimes I still feel like I don't know her. It takes time to figure this one out, that I'm certain of.
I think if you can seriously picture what it would be like to be with that person for the rest of your life... and I mean not just look at it romantically, think about the stinky bathroom you will clean and how he won't make the bed or do the laundry, or how when you are 60 he won't have any hair left and won't look as handsome... picture what a normal boring day would be like with him, waking up, going to work, coming home, eating, going to bed, nothing really happening, would you be happy if he was the one to share the boring day with you?
I think this is how you can tell. I'm pretty sure I want to get married to my boyfriend, but I am still young and still have doubts. I'm going to just wait, let the years go by, graduate, find a job, and see if we are still together then, which I hope we are.
3- I can only speak from experience on this one. I thought I had the greateset love with someone, you usually think that about your current partner, but I moved to college and distance shattered it like glass. I now realize that there was no love there at all, I only thought there was. It depends on how old you are and what you mean by distance. If by distance you mean you are in high school and you are going off to college, then I do believe that your relationship could be broken. I could go on about how high schoolers, no offense to them, but they just don't understand how much more growing up they have to do, and often people grow in different directions in college. If you are older than that, my apologies. If by distance you mean a few hours apart, no big deal, take turns driving. If by distance you mean a plane ticket away, I don't think I could have much faith in that working unless you have been dating a very very long time or something. There isn't enough information for me to guess on this one.
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