How do I stop someone from cursing constantly. it's such a headach now and then very annoying and makes me want to hit or slap that person on the mouth. i mean the curse is on me it hurts my feelings and sounds very nasty when used directly or left on voice messags. i dont know what to do is there any advice or revenge i can take on him? it's even making me hate him even more and im just drifting away and pushing me away becoz im being treated like shit... im called a bitch, slut, whore, fuckin bitch, ho, i mean worser then that... he says things like hes gonna fuck me then leave me he threatens me and says watch what i do bla bla bla and then he shows me his fake side telling me later oh im sorry i love you then does the same thing again. i dont want to call the cops but if i have to later i will but for now i just want to deal with it on my own.. coz hes my hubby.. i dont understand him it's like he has two face.. my mom is also disgusted by his behavior.. its like she cant accept him...
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--- Sunday, March 4, 2007 - Why is this even a question?
Answer by: annon
Leave that relationship. Immediately. If afraid to do so for fear of you life or family, enroll the assistance of police. but considering his lackadaisical attitude, that may be unnecessary. Just find the safest and cleanest exit. Just know how serious it is and take appropriate precautions whatever you feel they are. You are not (NOT) going to be change that guy. Flee that joke of a relationship post-haste.
--- Tuesday, February 20, 2007 - Don't correct his mouth, leave his ass!
Answer by: starfox_04
You think your mom can't accept him? Gee I wonder why... could it be because he is an abusive loser who you don't seem to like anymore either?
How could you possible like to be with someone who says things like that? Do you think he really loves you? No, he doesn't. If he actually loved you he wouldn't say that stuff. No excuses. That's the cold hard truth. HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. HE'S A LOSER. He apologizes and you go running back to him, that's all it takes... he knows you won't leave and he's using you.
You don't take revenge. You leave. NOW. Get out of this relationship. He's verbally abusive and perhaps more, he's a loser, you need to... pardon my french... dump his ass now. NOW. No excuses, no "but I love him..." nothing. You. Out. Now. Can I stress that any more?
Dump him, leave him, get away, move in with your mom if you have to. Get help. If you are afraid he will be mad and come after you, call the police on him. Look up a rape and abuse center, some sort of domestic abuse center for women, find something to make sure you are safe from this sick loser.
Why are you with him? Do you love him? And why would you think that? Love is a two way street. Love means you love him and he loves you, you respect him and he respects you. He OBVIOUSLY has no respect at all for you. He's using you because you, my dear, are convenient. I don't mean to be so hard on you, but I don't want you to stay with him, you have to realize that you HAVE to leave him because he's a sick bastard of a man. He can walk all over you because you don't leave, all he has to do is apologize, which is all a lie, he's just going to walk all over you again. The problem isn't his cussing, the problem is he's sick, and you need to figure out why you are staying with him and get over that reason.
Trust me, any girl, even if you think you are ugly or whatever, can get a guy that at least doesn't abuse them, and yes, he's verbally abusing you at least, that's abuse.
My final advise: Dump his ass, and find a center for abuse and or a therapist. And I'm not saying that to be mean, I've seen a shrink before for help with some issues, and I think you need one to see why you would stay with this guy who abuses you. Plus a therapist could help you find a shelter or a group of women like you, and can help make you feel safe by contacting the correct law enforcement to make sure your current sicko hubby doesn't come after you.
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