Hey. I have a problem. I'm 18. May be you would find it naive because I'm too yang and stuff, but I really need help here. Me and my (now ex) boyfriend (he's 21 now) dated for 10 month, we loved each other a lot and from the begining, as longer we've been together, as stronger our feelings become (no doubt that he loved me very much and had the strongest connection with me, also, he said that I was the best one and we were best together). But ever Since this New Year everything start going down the hill. On the new year I made a big mistake (we both wanted to meet new year together and stuff), the party we went to was boring so I left him there... I still remember his look (like I was leaving him forever). Then we started talking again but my alltime problem that I always thought that he doesnt care too much and stuff, I wanted him always with me...In a week I "broke up" with him in a rage of anger. That week was very tough. We got back together and I explained him that I didnt really break up with him. After 2 month (March 2) he told me that his feelings are gone (he still care about me, and there is little something left but its all not the same). That was a big shock for me, it seems like my life lost its meaning... He told me that there is a chanse for his feelings to come back, but also to go away completly.He just need time and space. I'm so afraid that just one day he'll tell me that feelings not coming back... I wake up every day in fear. I can't eat and sleep.I love him so much (I never knew that I could have such a strong feeling to anyone) and I don't want to loos his feelings. Please, don't say that I'm too young and that I find other love and stuff like that ( I'm tierd of hearing it from my mom). What do you think? Is there a chance? Can love come back again? How do I get his love back?
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--- Wednesday, March 7, 2007 -
Answer by: starfox_04
My mom keeps telling me I'm too young too, and I'm 21, and I hate it, and I'm not going to say it.
What I am going to tell you is that I think it is cruel, what he is doing to you. He probably sees it as letting you off easy, hurting you less, when in reality what he is doing is stringing you along.
I think by saying his feelings are coming back he is just softening the blow. I'm really sorry to say it, and I know it hurts, but he probably cares about you as a friend, you spent 10 months together, so it's only natural to not want to devastate you.
That is my opinion, I could be wrong, but for now the best thing you can do for yourself is leave him along and stay away from him. It's hard, I know I've been there, every day hurts so much, it is so hard to get up in the morning knowing he's gone. But trust me, in a month it will be a little better, and in another it will be even better, and so on. Plan on not seeing him, not talking to him, not having anything to do with him for awhile.
If his feelings do return he will contact you, but don't sit at home waiting for the phone to ring, you will never get over him that way and things will never get better. Hang out with some of your other friends.
I hope his feelings do come back, but please don't count on it. I think he was trying to be a nice guy by making it less harsh, but in doing so he only made it worse. What you need to do is leave him alone and worry about healing yourself. If it is meant to be, he will contact you, but don't sit around and wait for it. Go have fun with friends.
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