Im Casey.. Ive been dating this guy for 3months && about 2weeks. Things got serious really fast because we liked eachother before we started dating.. he used to be the player type && says that since he met me hes changed. Everything he does proves that too but some things bother me. All together we liked eachother since september && have said the i love you because I do love him && things he does shows me he loves me too but when we are on the phone it always leads to sexual talk. Hes 18 && im 15. Im a virgin && he isnt. He wants me to get him off alot && i do it because i love him && i told him i would do anything for him but when we first started going out it wasnt this way. He showed alot more feeling but now its like if we arent talking or i aint getting him off he acts like he doesnt wonna be with me.. I dont wonna leave him but i dont want him to be with me for sex either. I know he has alot more exsperience than me in that department because hes had sex with women.. i want my first time to be with him but yet he talks about girls && he jokes about having sex with other girls && him && my sister joke around alot flirting with eachother. Makes me wonder if hes really trustworthy. Someone help me out && tell me what i should do. It would be a BIG HELP! please and thank you<3
Casey J
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--- Sunday, March 18, 2007 - Uh...
Answer by: starfox_04
I don't know where you live, or even if you live in the US, but there could be laws against having any sexual relations with minors. I know in my state the law is if you are 18 you can not have any sort of sexual relations (getting someone off isn't sex but it is a sexual act and still counts) with anyone under 18, even if they are turning 18 the next day. He could get in big trouble with the law and have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life if your parents (or you) want to press charges against him... depending on where you live and what the law is there.
So for his sake I would stop doing stuff with him if it is indeed illegal, as you are still a minor.
I think you are getting too serious too fast. This is NOT good. Statistically most relationships (especially at your age) do not last long at all if you get too serious and too sexual too fast. He's an ex-player. I don't know about that, he's 18 and having a minor jerk him off, this is a guy of questionable character.
DON'T, I repeat, DO NOT have sex with this boy just because you "LOVE" him. I don't think you can get to know someone well enough at your age in only 3 months to know it is really love. I'm not saying you can't experience love at your age, but it is ridiculous to insist it is really love when you are young AND have only dated for 3 months. You are infatuated with an attractive guy.
But this guy is probably only using you for sex now. He's pushing you to see how far you will go. He says "I love you" so you will stay, and you say you will do ANYTHING for him. Yeah, NEVER tell a guy you will do ANYTHING for them. That is lowering your standards and morals for a guy you barely know (trust me, to know someone it takes many more months, and probably living together to figure out what kind of person they are).
My advice: LEAVE. He's using you for sex, and with your ages it is probably illegal. You probably do care about him since you've been with him for a few months now. Find a guy who is going to be with you and not just have you jerk them off. How about one that is younger than 18, so there is no chance of him being stamped with a sex offender status for the rest of his life.
PS: From my experience in high school I found out that most guys do not change while they are still of high school age. Maybe when you get to college and a guy says he used to be a player but he has changed you can believe him... but high schoolers don't really change too often. They just haven't matured enough at that age.
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