Okay, I have only been married nine months, but I am finding myself wanting to have a relationship with one of my guy friends and I feel horrible about crushing on another guy while I am married. My husband knows and is okay with it because I told him that nothing would ever come of it. The guy knows as well and feels the same as I do.
Last night my husband and I had an arguement and I went over to my female friend's house to talk, which is where my guy friend lives as well. I ended up talking to my guy friend in his bedroom. Nothing happened except that we talked and he told me that if I wanted to get together with him, to give him a call and we'd work something out.
I feel guilty for even THINKING about having sex with another guy, so I told my husband what my friend said and he told me that he trusts me not to screw up our marriage.
I am not sure I could stop something from happening with my friend the next time we are together. What should I do? Stop being friends with him, or just ignore my feelings?
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--- Monday, April 30, 2007 - you went too far
Answer by: lee02twins
you went too far. trust me your husband is freaking inside. stop the side relationship or get a divorce now. also, stop being so damn honest if nothing happen there is nothing to tell
Oh boy. How old are you? No matter what the actual age, you messed up big time. You are obviously WAY too immature to have gotten married. I feel really sorry for your poor husband. No offense but you need a good kick in the ass.
You are married now. This means grow up little girl. No more being alone with attractive guys in their bedrooms. Thats over now honey, if you wanted that kind of thing you should have thought about that before you got married.
Your guy friend is equally as horrible. He has no cajones if he's suggesting you two get together. Sounds like a real loser to even consider sleeping with another man's wife.
You aren't playing house anymore, you got married. Your options? Get divorced. I honestly suggest this one because you obviously have very little self control if in less than a year you already want to sleep around. Your husband sounds nice, he didn't freak out, he trusts you. Might turn out to be his bad. Let him go, let some more deserving girl have him, because you are treating him like shit.
You should feel guilty, I'm glad you feel that at least, shows you aren't totally hopeless.
As for your question, if you want to stay married to your current husband, stop seeing this guy. I honestly think you aren't even that good of friends with this guy. I think you are just attracted to the idea of the forbidden fruit, wanting what you can't have, shouldn't have, the grass is always greener, blah blah blah blah. I think you get it. I don't see this friendship doing you any good, only very very bad. If you really loved your husband you would stop seeing this guy altogether.
As for your female friend that lives with him, tell her you guys can hang out anywhere but her place, and anytime except when this guy is with her.
I hope you grow up soon, I feel so bad for your poor husband. I bet if he was doing this to you, you would totally go ape shit on him. Poor guy.
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