hi there, Well I've been seeing my boyfriend for nearly a year now and we are both very much in love. Anyway, I'm going away to a holiday resort for the next three months and he is staying home. Basically I was just wondering would it be really terrible if I were to cheat on him. It’s not something im setting out to do but if something were to happen would i be a really bad person for it? Its just I’m only 21 and I haven’t had that many sexual partners other then him and I'm not sure how long we could last. We get on so well that I do think it could last a long time but if we do break up far in the future will I always regret I never took full advantage of my youth?Im a big believer in making the most of things while your young because you'll never get those years back. He has been with a lot of women and traveled around the globe but I haven't. Also, I couldn’t go on a break with him because I know through many friends this rarely works and it would drive us both insane knowing we both we're with other people in between our relationship and we would just constantly quiz each other about it, and I don’t want to lose him! Is this really selfish of me to think like this? Should I just ignore these tempting thoughts? Thanks
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--- Thursday, May 17, 2007 - Not a bad person...
Answer by: starfox_04
You aren't a bad person. You are just very immature. I am 21 as well, going on 22, dating a boy for almost a year and a half. We were both virgins, neither of us goes to parties much, and I feel like I am doing just fine without all that drama and STDs. Dump the boy, he doesn't derserve you, and I don't mean that to be bad. You want to go out and have more experiences. That's great, do what you got to do, but let someone more deserving of his love have him, since you don't seem to have a sense of monogamy.
In the summer I move back home, and home is a 5 hour drive away from my boyfriend. We both work full time, so I probably will only get to see him a couple of times (especially with gas prices). But we feel no need to sleep around during that time, its hard on us mentally, but it makes seeing each other ten times more exciting.
If you want to cheat, save yourself and him the pain and guilt and drama and just dump him. That way it isn't cheating... but don't expect him to jump back in when you come back. You are in a relationship, you are either in or out. Your choice. If you want to sleep around, get out. If you want to stay with hiim learn how to have self control and act like an adult, not like a paris hilton, real-life, sexed up teen wannabe.
(PS: How would you feel if he told you he was sleepig with a girl or two but wanted to stay with you? That would not be cool with me, I can tell you that much.)
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