Me and my Boyfriend have been together almost 3 months...
We have had 2 conversations about me trusting him...
He told me that if we have a 3rd conversation about me trusting him, he breaks up with me...
He says I'm pushing him away, rather than pulling him in towards me...I don't want to push him away...
But, he told me to think about the conversation we had...because I said before that I trust him 100% and it seemed like I didn't....
But he told me something that has made me realize that I really can trust him...
He said, "My sexual Orientation is this...I'm gay, G A Y, gay, but, you are the only girl I will ever date or have sex with , your the only person I'll have sex with...if we make it, then we will be together forever and get merried and all that stuff...if we break up, My orientation will be that I'm strictly gay GAY...."
Now that he told me that, I think my subconcience mind will stop taking control of my actions of trusting him....
He told me that I'm a nice girl and I'm lucky to have someone like him, hell, he gave me the password that goes to all his emails and myspace and all that...and he knows all my passwords too...
He told me to think about our conversation, and I am, but I need some advice and stuff from someone who doesn't know me or him...
That could be because I listen to people I don't know...
Me and my boyfriend did have a third conversation...
I told him why I couldn't trust him a full 100%...And don't I feel like a TOTAL DUMBASS!!!
We took something like a "break" after the 3rd week of our relationship because another boy liked him....
Him and this boy only lasted a week (the other boy broke up with my boyfriend because he was confused)....
I thought he got with this other boy BEFORE he "broke up" with me...
He told me that he "broke up" with me a day before he got with the other boy...
I asked him a few times, "Are you sure?"
He got real serious and I can tell when he is lying....
He was telling me the truth....
My mood went from a million, to zero, in the snap of a finger...
I felt so so so so so so so so so so STUPID....I wanted to bang my head against the wall...
But I do thank you very much for your advice, once he told me that...I do trust him....
--- Saturday, June 9, 2007 - Back off and chill out.
Answer by: starfox_04
He hasn't done anything to make you not trust him. You are being to clingy and paranoid. Back off. He sounds like a good guy, but constantly being told by the one you like that you aren't trusted sounds like an intro to a conversation on breaking up. And it is annoying, and just complete unnecessary drama.
I am like him, only the opposite sex. I'm a female dating a boy, for almost a year and a half now. But before him, I was a lesbian. I still consider myself "mostly gay." If we break up, I'm going back to girls. My boyfriend doesn't see this as a big deal. Because it isn't.
I don't know him. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. You can never be sure if your partner will cheat. But if there is no trust, there is no relationship. You build the relationship on trust, its the foundation on the house. No foundation, house falls apart.
So stop worrying about it. There is NOTHING you can do about it. If he's going to cheat, he will cheat, and you can't do anything to stop him... but from what I gather he doesn't sound like the type who could cheat. Relax... because if you don't stop the drama, your relationship will be over.
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