my boyfriend is 19 and i am 15. i'm afraid i might be pregnant and i've been thinking if i do end up being pregnant i would kill myself. i would do this because we are so in love and i wouldn't live my life without him.. and if i am pregnant he would go to jail. :( and i would have to deal with a baby and the love of my life in prison. please i do not want your bullshit about our ages, love knows no numbers. i just don't know what to do if i get pregnant. we've decided to stop relying on my birth control, P.O.P. (progesterone only pills) which are only 90 some percent effective and use condoms for now on. Sex is a thing in our life that shows our intimacy and love for one another, it is stupid to do, i know because of our ages or whatever, but we're willing to risk it.
i'm also an addict/alcoholic. I drink too much, to the point were i have had to be hospitalized. I smoke at least a pack of cigarettes a day. And i do a lot of drugs, such as, cocaine, ecstasy, acid, marijuana, boomers (shrooms).. it's not good i know. but i can't stop.. not even for the child i may be bearing. :/ HELP ME??
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--- Saturday, June 9, 2007 - Help yourself. Get a shrink.
Answer by: starfox_04
You need to help yourself. Go see a therapist. And I'm not being mean or joking. You have some serious issues... lets start with thoughts of suicide. An alcoholic at 15. Drugs.
You also have an additude issue. "I don't want your bullshit about numbers." Honey, I'm 21. And I still don't view myself as mature. You sound so far from knowing what you are doing its not even funny. You need some good therapy.
You realize doing drugs and drinking is going to totally fuck up your baby? You are being selfish and hurting your innocent child. How sick and immature, and ungodly wrong.
And why don't you just wait to have sex? You can show intimacy in many other ways, trust me, and you are apparently to immature to handle sex. If you continue to be stupid and insist on having sex, then you are going to have to grow up and deal with the consequences. You might get pregnant. He might go to jail. And because of all the drugs, you may have a mentally retarded baby with a list of medical problems. Thats the truth hun. Your choice on what you want to do, but at 15 if I was your mother I'd slap the shit out of you... maybe it would knock the sense into you and show you that you are still a little girl not yet old enough to act like Paris Hilton.
As for the birth control issue.. you CAN use the pill and condoms at the same time, duh. Or just stop having sex because you might think you are mature now, but when you are 18 you will laugh at what a moron you were at 15, and at 21 you will laugh at how much of a little girl you were at 18, and I haven't passed 21 yet but I'm sure the list will continue on.
You say you are willing to risk the sex. Well fine, go ahead, you are apparently so mature and smart you know what you are doing. But isn't the sex the main cause of your issues? Sex could get you pregnant. Pregnant could put your older boyfriend in jail. Pregnant could land you with a messed up baby for the rest of your life because you think you are Paris Hilton with the drugs and the drinking and the smoking (none of which is legal, at your age, by the way). You could end up in jail too for endangering the life of your child. You think you can raise a crack baby with fetal alcohol syndrome when you are still acting dumb and getting high and drunk? I think not. Or you could just kill yourself... because gee isn't that the solution to all your problems. Oh wait, what about your boyfriend that you love so much? Or are you so selfish you would put him in jail and then make him lose you?
You are sick little girl. Tell your parents, or any adult, that you need to seek medication for depression, go to rehab, and see a therapist. Cuz you are about as borderline personality as they come.
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Answer by: 2y2m2d
Oh and also: DON'T KILL YOURSELF IF YOU'RE PREGNANT. Like I said, you don't have to say it's / his / baby. You can tell him the truth, but it is your information to release. I am in no way encouraging you to break the law, but keep the best in mind for you / and / the baby, should there be one.
--- Saturday, June 9, 2007 -
Answer by: 2y2m2d
It might not be what you want to hear, but if you do turn out to be pregnant, the best decision for you might be to get an abortion. The first thing you need to do is make an appoitment with your doctor to discuss the possibility of you being pregnant. You wouldn't have to say who by, I think. And the information would be kept confidential. You could, of course, take an at-home pregnancy test but doctor results are more reliable. If it turns out you aren't pregnant, then that's all done. But even so, I suggest you continue with birth control AND physical contraceptives as to rpevent another scare like this. If you / are / pregnant, you have a decision to make: Have the baby, or have an abortion. If you decide to have the baby, you do not have to say whose it is. You also do not / have / to stop drinking/smoking/using if you have the child. But if you don't, you know what can happen. Your baby can be miscarried, born with physical deformities, irreperable illness, mental illness/brain dammage, and addiction. So, if you do have the baby, it would be a wise decision to cease all your using. I understand it's easier said than done, but for you AND the baby, that would be the best course of action. In fact, even if you aren't pregnant, it'd probably be the best decision to quit using anyways. But I'm not going to lecture you on something you didn't ask for advice on. If you want to get an abortion, it is perfectly fine and legal. It depends on your own morals/beliefs. If you are absolutely opposed to having an abortion, your only option is to have the baby. However, using/drinking/smoking while pregnant can almost be worse for the fetus than abortion- due to what I mentioned above. If you are open-minded to abortion, here is some information: Abortion is legal. There are certain laws in different states about if your parents are notified or not- you can check those out here: http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/1998/if-19981201p065.php You can get an abortion at a clinic or get what is called a medication abortion- taking two kinds of medication simultaniously to end pregnancy (this is purposely having a miscarriage). However, it is better to go to a clinic to get an abortion, this way there is less risk of harm to you and the fetus can be used for other purposes to medical research/etc. I hope all this helps! Sorry if I offended you about the abortion stuff, but I'm trying to keep it as openminded as possible and explore all the different paths you might choose. Good luck!
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