i've been trying to avoid this [even on here] because i've been denying it and well. . . i just can't accept myself this way even though i can from everyone else.
but you prolly want to you what i'm raving on about - well, i recently discovered i am bi curious. i can't understand why - and i wish i was straight. the only reason is because other people cannot accept girls liking girls or boys liking boys in any sexual ways. i'd like to experiment [with kissing that is]. but i'm afraid i would regret it.
for one is because i want it to be with someone i love, and not just 'some girl'. but all the girls i want to kiss are well. . . straight unless they happen to feel the same as i do and lie about their sexuality. i'm also afraid that it will get out in the open and my friends and others will never look at me the same again.
there are only two people i am thinking of confiding all of this to. one is my gay guy friend, and the other is a guy friend who i know experiment with a guy, but ended up being straight [or so he may say]. the problem is that i don't think i'll regret it, and i do think that i am bisexual, and not just bi curious.
what i'd like to know is that is this normal - are there really more people out there that are bisexual [or bi curoius], and only say they are straight? could this be only a phase - since it just started recently - and maybe i'll get over all the crushes i have on girls? and lastly - should i confide in both or one of the guys friends that are gay and experimented?
thanks for reading this, hope you guys can help, and god bless!
Responses to this article:
--- Friday, July 16, 2004 - -
Answer by: MorningStar
I still do not believe what I am doing is a sin. I am in love. I am a virgin. The only difference is I love a female, and as long as it is love, I see nothing wrong with that. If I only wanted to have sex and nothing more, I can see that as being questionable. But, Guy, you have proved to me I'm wrong, you aren't one of the shallow gay bashers, I can see you at least have a little respect for us, by not condeming us, and I thank you for that. Sorry.
--- Thursday, July 15, 2004 -
Answer by: Guy
You are correct God says to love one another. He says to love the sinner not the sin. As I said I don't condemn her but rather what she was thinking of doing. And you saying God cares more about people sleeping together more than he does about two girls kissing thats where your wrong. To God sin is sin whether its so called "large" or "small" how we catogorize it its still sin.
Signed, Guy
--- Thursday, July 15, 2004 - Don't listen to him...
Answer by: MorningStar
Don't listen to Guy, he doesn't understand. Some people have their heads shoved so far up the Bible they can't see straight, and become shallow minded and ignorant. Guy, I have a very good catholic friend who says Jesus said to love all, so she can accept homosexuals with open arms... Anyways, Brielle, I am a bisexual female, I know what you are going through. Yes, it could be a stage. A lot of people go through a stage where they fantasize about the same sex, but it goes away and they are your average "normal" straight people. But maybe it isn't just a stage. I went through the same thing. You have to just take time and sort out your feelings, dig into this topic a little more. Maybe experimenting would help you decide, if you can find a girl who is trustworthy and feels the same way, or is more confident in their homosexuality. You wouldn't even have to go beyond holding hands or cuddling, I think, to figure out if that is what you want, unless you wanted to. Personally I wouldn't tell anyone until I knew for sure unless they were completely trustworthy, because this is not an easy road to travel, there are people against us at every turn. Guy is just one of the thousands who can't see that love is never wrong if it is true. What happened to me is a good female friend of mine came out to me, and I developed a crush on her. It took a long time but I eventually told her, and now we have been going out for 3 months. If this isn't a stage, please don't deny what you are because some people say God says its wrong. I think God cares more about some of you teens sleeping around then he cares about two girls kissing. Or gay bashing, I think he would like the love of two girls more than the hatred of the gay bashers. Good luck and blessed be, I hope you can figure your feelings out.
--- Thursday, July 15, 2004 -
Answer by: Guy
You should resist these urges you have. Why do you say "god bless" at the end of your posts when your considering doing things that god wouldn't bless. I mean i'm not trying to condemn you or anything but i am condeming what your thinking about doing. Best of Luck to you with overcoming that.
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