me and this guy who i really ike talk on the internet almost everyday for a really long time we seem to have alot in common and he knows i like him, but im starting to get sick of the whole internet thing. so one day we were talking on the internet and i was feeling brave and asked him if he wanted to do something after his 4 day trip and he said "sure" then when i asked him what he wanted to do he said he diddnt care and he completely changed the subject. then about 20 mins later i said to him "you dont have to do something with me if you dont want to" and he said "what makes you thinki dont wanna do something with you?" and i said "you just dont seem into the whole idea" and he said "well i do wanna do something with you" but then right after he said that he said "but i gotta go ttyl" without even saying bye he usualy says my name and then "bye" ex. "bye nikki" but he diddnt and i know that he wasnt in a hurry to go somewhere cuz he came back online 5 mins later i just diddnt talk to him that time. so do you think i scared him away?, or am i making a big deal out of nothing?, i really want to have a chance with this guy.
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--- Sunday, July 25, 2004 - Not sure but have gone through similar
Answer by: blue angel
Wow! I have a similar problem with this guy who I've had a crush on for 3 years. He knows how I feel and everything, but he's told me that he just likes me as a friend. Anyway we talk when he's on the internet. In the beginning, we talked a lot on here and I thought that maybe just maybe things could change between us, but now he hardly has anything to say to me. We've gone out on dates a few times, but most if not all of them were because of my asking or his dad's pushing. You see, his dad knows how I feel about him and on numerous occasions has told me that we'd make a good couple. I've always agreed with him, but I've never quite figured out how to get this guy interested in me in that way.
When I asked him if he wanted to go do something with me, he made me suggest a bunch of things we could do instead of him picking something. However, that's been a long time ago and it still hasn't happened. In fact last night, he signed off of messenger without saying "bye" just like your guy did. I know how it feels, "awful"!
I'm not sure how to interpret my guy or your guy, but I can tell you that there is someone else out there who shares your distress. Maybe these guys are really just shy and are afraid to say how they truly feel about us. Maybe they're afraid of hurting our feelings. Maybe they're just not sure themselves yet. In any case, guys are definitely confusing and different at least in my opinion. All I know is that I've devoted most of my attention to this guy and haven't really gone after anyone else. That's been my story since I was a freshman and now I'm a senior and still haven't figured it out. My crush is strange acting, but he can be very sweet. I've had good times with him and bad and still have not fully become aware of where I went wrong. My chances are quickly dwindling and yet I still think of him constantly. My best advice to you is, if you really like this guy keep trying and try to figure out why he's acting the way he is before it's too late. Trust me if you don't you'll regret it later. Take it from someone who's learned, try different things until one of them gets him interested, listen to those people who are close to him and don't be afraid to show other sides of you, and if all else fails, keep hoping and maybe one day when you least expect it, your wish will come true. Good luck. If you have any advice for me let me know in a posting.
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