Last year i had a class with a boy named Cj. He isn't exactly on the top of the popularity list, but i don't really care about that. Its just that Cj just up and had a crush on me one day and sent his friends to tell me. I never spoke a word to him in person until the very end of the year and that was when he asked me to sign his yearbook. It's very frustrating because i dont' think i'm ever going to like him, and he doesn't seem to be giving up on me. I don't want to hurt him because he seems to be nice but i really don't want to encorage him because i don't have any intrest in him.
I've already tried to just be friends but he doesn't understand, and he keeps trying to ask me out, even when i had a boyfriend. He isn't a pervert, even though reading through this thats what he seems like. I think that no one has ever even let him slip his foot into the doorway and when i left mine open a crack he thinks maybe if he persits long enough i'll let him in. I am so confused and troubled because i hate hurting people and it really tears at my heart just to think of hurting him. Why do i have to be so nice? Please help me! i REALLY NEED THE ADVICE!!!
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--- Sunday, August 29, 2004 - thanks
Answer by: 2confused4words
thanks!
--- Sunday, August 29, 2004 - Try this
Answer by: Sportigirl
Ok, keep telling him no. IT will eventually sink in. In the mean time write him a letter(short or quick either way) that is polite but persistant. Just as persistant as he is. If he doesn't act to that. Time to get a little nasty. if he asks one say no thanks. Twice, tell him no firmly. Three times. Raise your voice girl! Or get your bf to do something about it....sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear, but its what i would do. Don't tell your bf to mention you if you ask him to do something. Just have him say "I have been noticing you hanging around my girl lately, whats goin' on?" Just non chalantly.......
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