hi im 18 and so is my girl... my girl and i have been together for about a year and a half. it seems like ive known her forever and everything besides our lil misunderstanding have been absolutely great. i absolutely love her more than anything!!!! i cant stress that enough...
recently before ive came over some notes to her friends bout her liking other guys and what not. weve talked about those and got over em, ya know. it has ironically happened for about the 2nd time i know of. well this time she told her friend about this guy at her job.. she insisted on stating how hot he was, that she LOVED the way he walked, and that her liking him was tearing her apart. it tears me apart that she would think about wanting to be with someone else. :-/
she sees him all the time at her job and tells her friend she always has him in her head.. i think prolly even when were together. i know she wonders about the possibilities of her and him...i sometimes feel uncomfortable with her goin to work cause i know he would once again be on her mind. shes so torn cause she loves me though.
ive told her numerous time that i could be someone she could come to if she has problems gettin over things and i would love her and want to be with her no matter what... i just want to feel like i can be came to for ANYTHING!! ..just come to me when shes feeling torn.. she doesnt and hasnt!
when i first found this out she was upset cause i found the letter stating all the facts of her having a huge crush on this guy and basically stating that she was gawking at him all the time. she also told her friend that she and her friend should go to her job and ask to be seated with the guy as their server and just alot of small stuff ya know?? she broke up with me agreeing with my idea that she was immature in the mind and didnt know what she wanted. we broke up and she asked me to be back with her an hour later. of course i did cause i was very very upset breaking apart.
what do i do knowing this? i mean there are many other "hot" guys out there that will test her. should it get this far in her mind? what should she do?
i would really hate to think about not being together with her but let me know what you think PLEASE ASAP!!!!
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--- Tuesday, October 19, 2004 -
Answer by: DAVE
does she know that you know about this guy? maybe you should remind her that your there for her, even if you dont like what she is saying. thats a reason to get into a relationship in the first place, to help each other with their problems. you should also have the liberty to confide in her about stuff your not sure about. shes there for you, just like your there for her. sit down and have a good long talk about where your relationship is going and/or what your planning to do with it. good luck.
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