Over the past few months I have been spending a lot of time with one of my good guy friends that is gay. (We met a few months ago) We get along great, we're always there for eachother, we have fun, we laugh together and all that good stuff. I find him very attractive and he has also told me before that I was very good looking.
But lately, I have been noticing that I think I am starting to fall in love with him. He's never been with a woman before so I am afraid to say anything to him about my feelings towards him and most importantly I don't want to ruin our friendship. I'm afraid he's going to think I am crazy for falling for him when I know he's gay. But if he's never been with a woman then he doesn't know what it's like. He acts flirty towards me (such as smacking eachothers asses). Sometimes when he's getting dressed he'll ask me how he looks and then he'll say "Would you do me?" But since he's gay I can't help but think that it doesn't mean anything. I want it to mean something though. I want it to be like if I said "yes" in a serious way to that question, then we would have at it.
Should I bring it up to him how I feel or would that ruin our friendship? What are some ways I could get him to consider a relationship with me or even just a "friends with benefits" relationship? How should I talk to him about this and what should I do about the whole situation? I really want to be with him on that next level. Whether it being a relationship or friends with benefits. So if you have any advice on how I could get there I would really appriciate it.
Thanks so much
Jessica
Responses to this article:
--- Tuesday, November 23, 2004 -
Answer by: LithTannasg
Dave hit it perfectly. My tidbit is just like some day when you're alone break it to him. From there out it'll all be fine.
--- Sunday, November 21, 2004 -
Answer by: DAVE
okay, here goes...
you could tell him. true, his reaction may be unpredictable, but think of it as a girl coming on to you. it may seem wierd to him that someone of the opposit sex were in love with him. though as a friend, hell prolly understand how you feel since thats the usual thing (no offense to him). t5alk to him about it and let it out. its not gonna do good to keep it from him, bc hes your friend. either way, itll destroy you from the inside out if at least he doesnt know how you feel, cause youll keep wondering "will our friendship be ruined?" it shouldnt be. i hope this helps.
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