I have known this boy named Paul for a while but we have really started talking this school year. I can discuss everything with him and he always helps.
Everyday I see him in the morning (on the bus because he lives near me) and he makes me smile for the rest of the day. He still goes to the middle school (8 grade) and i go to the high school (9 grader) He is the sweetest boy ever but a lot of girls like him but he never seems to like any of them. He talks to me about how people ask him out and he said no to someone like a couple days ago because he doesnt really want a girlfriend unless shes really cool he said to me.
He gave me his phone number and he has mine because we planned to take walks because we live near eachother. I see him everyday and we see eachother at church all the time. I really think it's love but I've never felt love before so I dont know what it is really. I dont know how to make him find out I adore him. I dont want to ruin the best relationship ive ever had but at the same time I just want to be able to hug him and kiss him. Please give me advice! Thanks Love you guys!
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--- Tuesday, November 23, 2004 -
Answer by: LithTannasg
Okay, first of all, sure, it might be hard to ask a guy out. Guys have the same problem with girls all the time. But what's the worst that could happen? Worst case scenario, he says "no" okay... you can still have that friendship with him. It'll be awkward at first but that passes quickly, as do romantic thoughts towards him.
On a second note... love. This isn't always the case, but if you love someone, you know you love them, there isn't any doubt. Also, be careful not to use the term love at least for a couple weeks into the relationship (assuming you start it). I say this because some guys (and girls) get freaked out if you say you love them right away.
--- Saturday, November 20, 2004 - it's love
Answer by: brielle
i'd say that is definatly love. that is how i started to feel about the guys i liked when i forst met him, and then it grew into such an amazing love and respect for him.
anyway - if this is your first love then i'd say hello to the world! i have always believed your first real love is the one you will always, always, remember.
so you wanna snab the guy for your very own, right? you are on the right track thus far. stay a close friend, let him get to know you really well, yet at the same time let him know you do feel something for him. flirt little by little.
sooner or later the two of you will be at a really comfortable level, and at some point you can say to yourself that you can ask the guy out - if he hasn't asked you already!
it is really scary asking out a guy for the first time, but i can assure you it is all worth it! i remember i was in a similar situation with this one guy i became friends with, and i ended up falling in love with him within one night [that's a night we became really close]. though he wasn't my first love, i ended up asking out this guys because i was comfortable with him, and maybe he could have been what i was looking for. i was never so frightend in my life, but i refused to let myself believe any negative thoughts that ran through my head. all i did was keep talking to myself about all the posstive things, so when i got the chance to see him again after that one night - i asked him out and he said yes!
i'm sure the guy will say yes to you, as well, since he is comfortable saying what he likes in a girl to you, and tells you how other girls want him [i believe it's a sign showong he likes you, and wants to show he is wanted, so you should want him as well]. of course there IS the chance he may say no - but put it this way: damn! congrats on getting the guts to ask him out, and now you'll know how he feels about you.
it's just a matter of time when you decide to ask him out - but i cannot tell you when that is. you just need to know when it feels right for you, and when you have the courage to go through with it.
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