So here's the scoop. I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now, I'm in 1st year university. We're really serious, haven't had sex though, we're saving that for marriage. It seems lately that he doesn't seem as enthuised when he talks to me on the phone, he'll be playing on the comp while he semi-talks to me. When he gets tired he's not as talkitive and he doesn't talk as much. I noticed some tension for him and he said he's a little worn down from school (we go to the same uni) and that understandable and he said he's not in the mood. But i don't knwo how long this "mood" will last. I know he loves me but i dunno I'm sad all the time, i can't eat regularly, sleeping pattern is way off I just don't feel like doing anything fun I seem to fit alot of the symptoms of depression. Could it be from school? I think so, will my b/f snap out of his mood? Anyone got any opinions or suggestions I'd love to hear them.
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--- Sunday, November 21, 2004 - ---
Answer by: Linzer8
thanks Andres, I had a good long chat with him. it turns out that yes it was school, and i know i need to get out there and find "me" time which is what I'm lacking and is what is making me sad. I'm always shut-up in my room studying with not oo many friends besides him. I don't think the relationship's fading because it happened so fast. We're good now. We're just going through a diff phase in our relationship. We're always good, i just need to respect his need for space and quiet time when he needs it. Thanks for your help, I appreciate it.
--- Sunday, November 21, 2004 - relight the flames
Answer by: andres
Perhaps on his side of the relationship, things have begun to get boring for him. Everyone is different. It may be from school in his case, you would just have to find out for yourself. But the worst case senario is tht maybe the relationship just isnt what it used to be. After all, it isnt going to be like the first few months forever. Things slow down. Perhaps it was getting repetitive, or you spent to much time together. Love has its many dangers. contrary to what beebee said, you dont need to give him any "booty". wen in love, sex should not be a major factor. There are many more ways to enjoy eachothers company. Do things youve never done together before(besides sex of course). have fun, try to relight wat was there in the beginning. And if it turns out tht if he does "end up leaving you" becuase of no "booty", then he just isnt worth it.
yes, you are going through depression, ive been there done that. It is the worst feeling in the world. But as hard as it may be, you should get out with some friends, get your mind off of things. it helps. I wish you the best of luck Andres
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Answer by: beebee
gurl sry to say but u need to give that boy some booty. he gon end up leaving you.. duh
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