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Age Difference: How much is too much, and more.
By: Macabre
To start off with, although I am not, in the legal and technical sense an adult. I am 15 years old as of this past Oct.; the man I am with is 20, having turned 20 this Oct. there is more or less a five year difference between us. By now most of you will be saying something a long the lines of "Hes just using you, stop because its illegal, etc" But let me make it known that we have not had sex, nor has our relationship become a sexual one (no kisses, etc) Although we both know of our feelings towards one another, we've decided its best to keep things as platonic as possible - with the exception of embraces every so often. Embrace = a hug, although many might say it is the type of hug one lover might give to another, as opposed to the tye a friend would give a friend. Now, my question is, is this relationship wrong? I know that, in the USA, it is considered illegal for an adult to have a sexual relationship with a minor. But, we're not having sex. Although we do want to, we have decided to put it off for at least two more years....That being said, is it so wrong for me to love him, and would you consider the relationship we have, an actual relationship. If you have read this, and have decided to post, I thank you from the depths of my heart; hopefully it will bring some clarity to the confusion I've felt. -Macabre p.s. Out of curiosity, do I strike you as a 15 year old girl? The reason I ask this is, when we met he percieved me to be the age of 18 or so, despite my appearance (I'm asian, and I've heard its hard for many to decipher the age of an asian woman) Much thanks!
Responses to this article:
--- Thursday, November 25, 2004 - age don't matter
Answer by: jimmysgirl_07
girl trust me age don't matter. not all guys use girls just cause they are older. i would know. girls mature faster so to us older guys are what make us happy because they aren't so childish anymore they have usually gotten themselves outta that act.i don't agree with anyone about this. i mean yes...illegal but if u feel u love someone u don't just let them go because of dumb things like that. don't worry about age difference do what u want.
--- Thursday, November 25, 2004 - Well, I hope you can wait
Answer by: some_guy_542
Well, it seems to me like he is respecting you and the law by practicing abstinence. Your relationship looks great right now. However, I find it unlikely you and your guy can keep your relationship going for three years at least. Most relationships last an average of about 2 or so years. He must have a job and college and such while you are in high school. If you 2 can keep your relationship going, that's fine. However, if he gets too extreme or something, you have to leave him. Good luck to you.
--- Tuesday, November 23, 2004 - Both sides of the coin.
Answer by: LithTannasg
Well you know... this coudl go either way. On one hand, I'd say that hey, so long as it stays platonic for the next 3 years, thats fine.
However, I have to agree with Liliana in that it would be far wiser to start a relationship with someone closer to your age, say 16 or 17. That way the person is able to relate to you far more in terms of what goes on in life.
That's my five cents.
-Rich
Heh... oh and for what good it will do, there's a quote that supports my first statement. "Love knows no age."
--- Tuesday, November 23, 2004 - my 2 cents
Answer by: Jammer
You are in high school, hes almost at an age where he is looking for a wife! You might think that right now you are so0o destined but just try going out with a few guys your own age.
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