My gf and i have been dating for about a year and a half. she is a freshman in college and i am still a senior in high school. we both love each other more than anything and have known this for about a year. i love her more than anything in the world and would do anything for her.
i hate to say it but i am a very jealous bf. i usually dont say anything about how it makes me feel when she does stuff with other guys cuz, well, it makes her happy and theyre her friends. but every once in a while, she drinks a little with her friends, and i will tell her that i really dont like that and wish she wouldnt do it. i continued to tell her that "anything can happen when you are drunk". she told me not to worry, so i trusted her.
i week later -
she just told me that she got drunk and kissed another guy.
this hurts so much.
she says that it doesnt mean anything cuz she was drunk. but i dont understand. how can any kiss not mean anything? yea she was drunk, but she couldve been in the same situation with a girl and it probly wouldnt have happened.
i know i dont deserve her. and i know she regrets this probly more than i do. she still loves me. but it hurts so freaken much. she tells me it wont happen again, but she told me this b4.
will i ever get over this? is there anything i can do? is there anything she can do? why does love hurt so much? why love when it hurts? i dont wanna hurt anymore. ...help...
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--- Wednesday, December 29, 2004 -
Answer by: susie
i no someone who got drunk adn made out with another guy while she had a boyfriend. There still together but the difference was when she called him she laid down what she had done. She said even though she was drunk she new it was wrogn adn she didnt want to do it but for somereason she did it anyway and she doesnt no why. When he told her that it was ok because she was drunk she told him that that was not an excuse and if he wants to break up with her because of it although it would hurt like hell shed understand. And because she was honest and new being drunk was no excuse because its not...they are still together and very happy
Now it seems to me that you need to try and not be so jealous with your gf but her kissing another guy was wrong adn the fact that she blamed it on her being drunk was no excuse. You need to think about it and see if you can ever trust her again because a relationship without trust is not a relationship. Yeah it may hurt but tiem will heal it if it was the right choice to leave her. You can tell her how much it hurt you and see what she says. If she takes it to heart and tries to make you feel better or change and you can really tell that shes trying then you no maybe you guys can work through it. I no that my friend who got drunk and made out with another guy doesnt drink as much because of it and she doesnt want to hurt him again because she cares so much. If this sounds liek something your gf would do then consider giving her another chance. But like i said before trust is the key to a relatiionship and if you dont have trust then what do you have?
--- Sunday, December 19, 2004 - ok
Answer by: wickedclownz
ok my man was like that to only the guys i hung out wit were my two older brothers and their friends. i was always with them though. he was at work before i got out of school and was home after 11 so i never thought it would matter tell one night he started yellin at me cause he was acusing me of drinking. (I only had one drink of 10 high)then my friend toke the phone and told him he didnt treat me right and it was a big mess. my guy friend even went so far as to tell him next time he felt like gettin pissed come find him and he was going to kick his ass. well we broke up the next day becuase of it. i still talk wit him becuase he ment well. what i am tryin to say is if you want to controle her u are going to lose her. i loved my x and we were going to be together forever but i will do what i want and i got tierd of him tellin me i could not hang wit my brothers cause their friends were there and i was going to drink. he would say that even if he knew i was not going to drink. u gotta trust her and let her have fun
--- Thursday, December 16, 2004 - talk to her
Answer by: some_guy_542
I think your girlfriend needs to be more responsible of her actions. If I were you I would not care if she was drunk or not. When you talk to her about it, be understanding and do not be mad. Stay calm at all times. Hey, it could have been a lot worse. Some people have sex just because they are drunk. I think the 2 of you need to be very careful. I'm sure she loves you and all. And by the way, try not to be so controlling. It's okay if she hangs out with her guy friends, but drimnking with them is a little over the edge. And also, don't talk so low about yourself saying "I don't deserve this girl". Just have more trust in her and treat her very good. Still, your gf should take full responsibility of her actions, whether she was drunk or not. If she had sex while she was drunk and said, "It didn't mean anything cuz i was drunk", would you really believe it didn't mean anything? Think about that.
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