Ok, iv been going out with this girl for 3 months now, we were friends about 6 months before we started dating, so we are pretty close and open with eachother. Not once did i ever push her or pressure her to have sex. About a month ago, we were in bed, we both had our shirts off, i went to get a condom and when i came back, i asked her what was wrong, she said she was scared. So we didn't have sex. This happened again about 2 weeks ago. She said she is scared, she gets nervous. By the way, i am a virgin still =\, and she has been with 1 other guy, but gets nervous around me. I asked her what was wrong, she says she does want to with me but gets scared. Scared things will change? i don't get it, i think it would bring us closer. I do love her and wouldn't change a thing. The first time that happened she got worried i was gona leave her because she didn't go any further. But i told her it was fine and if it has to wait that it is fine. I don't want this to keep happening, i think that if i just try to avoid the topic for a while so this doesn't happen for the 3rd time she may think i don't want to have sex, what do you all think?
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--- Tuesday, December 28, 2004 -
Answer by: susie
obviously something might of happened the first time she had sex, maybe he left her or soemthing idk. but it seems to me that shes just not ready if shes scared shes not ready. So i suggest you wait and not bring it up. when the moment comes it will come but wait for it. and by not bringing up the fact that you want sex will nto make he r think that you dont want it she'll no
--- Thursday, December 23, 2004 - Wait
Answer by: some_guy_542
Well, the reason is because she might not know you well enough. You said you 2 have only been dating for 3 months. That does not seem like enough time before sex. What you should do is maybe wait a little longer, maybe like 3 more months and treat her like you really love her without sex. Hey, girls concentrate more on the emotional part of sex, so if you 2 really love each other, it will be twice as good. Also you should go to the doctors or something and prove that you don't have an STD or something.
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