Hi again! I ended up telling the guy that his girlfriend cheated on him and he is still with her so it is all good. So thank you very much! But I am faced with another problem. That guy I was in love with, Jack*, were have problems as you all knew. Well around Thanksgiving it finally ended. A few days later I began talking to an ex of mine who is from a different state. We will call him Ben*. Well I have known Ben for 5 years and we dated long distance for about 2. I began to discover I still had likey feelings for Ben so I told him. Well Ben is all obsessed with me and whatnot and totally in love with me. Around 2 weeks ago Ben kind of tricked me into going out with him since I refused to because I still had feelings for Jack. Well I fell for it and now Ben and I are together. At first I was ok with it and my feelings for him were strong. I even felt comfortable telling him I loved him because it was helping me get over Jack. But the thing is when I told Ben I loved him I rarely felt anything. Now I am faced with a problem. I realize I still have very strong feelings for Jack. No matter what I do I cannot get over him. Jack still likes me and he knows we are on a break. But I really do love Jack. But I am with Ben right now. I don’t want to rush anything with Jack because we really need this break from one another. But I don’t want to hurt Ben since he is a nice guy and he isn’t exactly all there. What I mean is he is kind of insane. I am afraid if I tell him I don’t love him he might hurt himself or he may become depressed and go nowhere with his life [he was all depressed and in trouble and then when I began talking to him he got all happy]. I want to help him out and be there for him and be his friend, but I don’t want to be with him. I am also afraid, as selfish as this sounds, that Jack may not like me anymore and he may just hurt me more, and I will be left with no one. I am afraid of being alone and what not. Yea I know it sounds totally horrible. I am a very insecure person. ;[
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--- Thursday, December 23, 2004 - follow your heart x
Answer by: greenfairy
follow your heart and if that doesn't work then leave them both behind take some time to get over them and then find someone new without the history good luck x
--- Wednesday, December 22, 2004 - More Info
Answer by: DusterSoapBunny
Ok here sorry I forgot to mention. Both Jack and Ben has cheated on me in the past and we both have horrible pasts. And sometimes I will have feeling for Jack and then I will have feelings for Ben and then I won’t have feelings for neither of them! Please help me!
--- Wednesday, December 22, 2004 - More Info
Answer by: DusterSoapBunny
Ok here sorry I forgot to mention. Both Jack and Ben has cheated on me in the past and we both have horrible pasts. And sometimes I will have feeling for Jack and then I will have feelings for Ben and then I won’t have feelings for neither of them! Please help me!
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